Day 2204: What you’re not good at

Even good people seem to focus on what they’re not good at. I’m not sure if that’s good or not.

I’m not good at

  • getting enough sleep,
  • asking for help,
  • saying “no,”
  • remembering details,
  • making a fuss,
  • taking up space,
  • goodbyes, and
  • keeping to myself what I’m not good at.

Do you have a list of what you’re not good at?  If you do, does that do you any good?

If you make lists of what you’re not good at, try to get that list out of your head and down on paper (or a screen) so you can consider challenging the items on the list. For example, when I made that list above, I thought better of adding “planning parties,” even though

  • I’m anxious about planning a party right now,
  • it’s that anxiety which is inspiring this post, and
  • I often say, “I’m not good at planning parties.”

The reason I didn’t add “planning parties” to the list was that when I thought it through, I realized that I don’t have a lot of practice planning parties and also every party I’ve ever planned has turned out fine.   Therefore, it doesn’t belong on the list of “What I’m Not Good At.”  It does belong on the list of “What Makes Me Anxious.”

Also, it’s good to balance out any list of what you’re not good at with a list of what you ARE good at.

I’m good at taking photos to distract myself during stressful times,  like traveling and goodbyes.














I’m not good at dealing with the cold, and I took that last shot as I was waiting, alone, for my luggage back in Boston. After I had said “Goodbye” (which I’m not good at)  to my ex-in-laws and my son (who remained in Orlando for a little more warmth), I texted them “I miss everyone already!” and my good ex-sister-in-law Deborah sent me this:


It’ll be good to see my son Aaron again when he returns home from University of Edinburgh in May.

I’m not good at keeping things to myself, so here‘s Disney World’s “It’s Tough to Be a Bug” (which I saw yesterday).  If you’re not good at tolerating bugs, people screaming, or 3-D without glasses, you may not want to watch it.

Let’s assume that you’re good at making comments and that I’m good at responding back to them.

I’m also good at expressing thanks at the end of each blog post to all who help me create them and — of course! — to YOU.


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28 thoughts on “Day 2204: What you’re not good at

  1. JoHanna Massey

    You are certainly good at capturing the quirkiness of humans and the culture via your photos. Always enjoy what has captured your attention and lens. Party planning. My advice don’t over plan. Some of the best parties ever held or attended in my life had the least planning. Happy you will see your son soon. All my best to you Ann. 🌲

  2. One of the most helpful books I ever read about Chess started off with a list of ten things *not* to do.

    Self-help usually emphasizes the positive, but it is helpful sometimes to put a little emphasis on correcting the negative.

    I liked this post a lot!

  3. That list might indeed make you see things in a better light, Ann. Thanks for putting my mind in a better focus, too.

  4. I’m not good at much, except maybe loving my family (really good at that!) and writing (still making an effort!). But I’m good at enjoying your pictures! PS Never be good at saying goodbye…

  5. Great post πŸ™‚

  6. Hi Ann, I think you are very good at writing positive blog posts I want to read. I am not good at saying No!, I am not good at keeping my feelings to myself,. I am however good at planning, and having parties, but I always want the people to leave after an hour or so, so I have can have peace and quiet again.

  7. Those pictures are beautiful, as always–you’re definitely good at that!

  8. Sometimes maybe it’s good to accept what we’re not good at. Admitting that I’m not good at certain things, like time management acts as a prompt to work on that, and I can get better. On the other hand I’m quite comfortable with not being good at math no matter how much I work on it and, like the bugs, have developed some amazing survival techniques to deal with that.
    With that in mind I humbly offer that you’re better at planning parties than you realize since adult parties don’t really need a plan. They need food, beverages, and a space–and the only thing other than that to worry about is time.

  9. There are many things I am not good at but what th hell I’m not worried about what I am not good atcan’t see the point

  10. I can’t tell you how important this was for me to read “…try to get that list out of your head and down on paper…so you can consider challenging the items on the list.” Thank you. I’m going to challenge the items on my list. And thanks for the great photos from the Tree of Life Rep Theater. They were today’s giggle.

  11. So … think about what an impromptu party would be like … and then make it happen. No planning, just envisaging and using your natural resources. That’s what you are really good at πŸ’•

  12. I’m not good at expressing my felines ΰΈ…(β‰šα„Œβ‰š)

  13. I’m not at all good at goodbyes, Ann. I can really conjure up the emotion you must feel when you separate from Aaron. I’m sure you are really looking forward to May! It takes courage to make a list of things you’re not good at. Although I am aware that I have plenty of areas where this is true for me, I don’t think I’ve ever written them down. Maybe I don’t want to see them in print. πŸ™‚

  14. Pingback: Day 2331: ASK FOR HELP! | The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally

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