Day 2028: Comparisons

Not to make comparisons, but I’ve written at least two previous posts about the cognitive distortion of comparisons (here and here).

We compare ourselves to others, with ourselves coming out short. For example, “I’m not as smart (or good, competent, good-looking, lovable, etc.) as that other person.” Or, we compare ourselves to how we think we should be, or how we’ve been before. We might think that comparisons help motivate us, but they usually make us feel worse.

Yesterday, in a therapy group, we focused on comparisons.


I believe the human mind is built to make comparisons, in order to make meaning of what’s around us.  However, when we compare ourselves to others, the resulting blows to our self-confidence and self-esteem can be beyond compare.

I’ve been making a different type of comparison lately.  I compare the blog posts I’ve written after and before the November 2016 USA presidential election and I see differences. Less joy.  Less hope.  Less confidence in the future.  Less faith in humans to be respectful and kind.

Some might compare me to a snowflake.  Personally, I don’t mind being compared to a snowflake — each one is beautiful, intricate, and unique.

Let’s see how the rest of my photos compare to the one I’ve included above.





When I search YouTube for “comparisons,” most of the results have to do with money and wealth — not particularly useful comparisons.

If we don’t realize all animals are beyond compare, we will continue to lose more and more to extinction.  Here’s a video showing comparisons of animal size:

The most recent comment on that video includes this: “Fake news.” I now compare my life to how it was before I heard that phrase so frequently.

Here‘s one result for “comparisons music.”

I look forward to comparisons in comments, below.

Now it’s time to compare  two ways of my expressing gratitude to all who helped me create another “comparisons” post and — of course! — to YOU.



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19 thoughts on “Day 2028: Comparisons

  1. I wouldn’t try to compare you to any other blogger, and not just because yours is the only blog I still read on a daily basis. You are incomparable. I wouldn’t think of comparing your Trump-era posts, but I suspect that if I did, I would find that you have written.more original songs since his election.

    • It takes one incomparable person to know another one, Maureen. I’m comparing my mood before I read your comment to how I feel afterwards: much better now. Thank you!

  2. I think you’re incomparable, Ann.

  3. I will not be odious

  4. Something I’ve said before is that Stein’s “A rose is a rose is a rose” is the only perfect metaphor, but you’ve helped me realize the beauty of metaphors is that they’re imperfect. I might never have realized that had I not compared my thoughts to yours.

  5. Wow, I knew about half of the people that guy was imitating. Yeesh. I must be out of touch! you, however, have an incomparable blog. None of us is as hopeful as before, but we can perhaps be hopeful again!

    • I am comparing myself to you, Lisa — I am also out of touch about half those singers! However, we’re in touch about comparatively important issues. Let us be hopeful about the future, together.

  6. “The longer I live, the more I am enabled to realize that I have but one life to live on Earth, and that this one life is but a brief life, for sowing, in comparison with eternity, for reaping.”- George Muller

  7. Another incomparable blog post by an incomparably awesome person, Ann! I liked many of your incomparable photos, and the guy who sings incomparably in 43 voices is amazing! I hope he gets some work capitalizing on his gift.

  8. Hard for most other blogs to compare to yours 🙂

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