Day 1961: Don’t feel bad

I don’t feel bad that I’m going to recount something that happened three days ago, for which I have no accompanying photos.

When I took the train to New York on Saturday morning, I felt bad that I couldn’t lift my bag into the overhead compartment. I immediately told myself “Don’t feel bad” and I asked the gentleman sitting next to me if he could help.  He was happy to help and I didn’t feel bad about that, although I felt the need to explain that I couldn’t lift my own bag because I had torn my rotator cuff. I feel bad that I still feel the need to offer excuses for myself.

At the next stop, a woman boarded and sat in the seat across the aisle from me.  I noticed she didn’t put her bag up in the overhead compartment.  She looked like she felt bad about holding on to that bag, but I feel bad whenever I assume or mind read what’s going on with somebody else, so I waited to see what would happen.  When the conductor came by, she asked him to put her bag away for her.

I didn’t feel bad initiating this conversation with her:

Me: I can relate. I needed help with that too.

She:  I feel bad that I had to ask him.

Me: No!  That’s nothing to feel bad about.

She:  It’s embarrassing.

Me: Please try to let go of that.  I know what I’m talking about.  I’m a psychotherapist.

She:  I’ll try.

Me:  Look, while you’re feeling bad about that, people are doing terrible things that they’re not feeling bad about.

She:  That’s true.

Me: Please don’t feel bad.

And because I didn’t want her to feel bad that a stranger was talking to her, I smiled and went back to reading my book.

I don’t feel bad

  1. about that encounter,
  2. that I can’t find my iPhone right now,
  3. that I can’t share any new photos with you because of #2, above, and
  4. about sharing old photos in this post.









Don’t feel bad if you ever have the erroneous thought that nobody loves you. You’re not alone in that thought and thinking it does not make it true.

I don’t feel bad that I feel fine about being on vacation all this week.

Don’t feel bad if you can’t think of anything to say about today’s post. I don’t feel bad asking you to leave a comment anyway.

I don’t feel bad that I can’t share all the gratitude photos I took yesterday, because tomorrow is another day.



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33 thoughts on “Day 1961: Don’t feel bad

  1. lifeinkarolingston

    And I don’t feel bad to say that I have enjoyed reading your post! 😊

  2. I’m not going to feel bad about sharing a Weird Al song, mostly because it’s a Weird Al song, but also because it’s from his fourth album, “Polka Party!”, which was both a commercial and critical failure. Yankovic felt pressured to rush the production of that album and didn’t feel it was his best work, and worried it was the end of his career. He shouldn’t have felt bad about asking for more time, and I don’t feel bad that it was the first Weird Al album I bought–in my opinion it has some of his best songs.

  3. I would feel bad if I lost my iPhone too Ann! I hope it shows up 💛

  4. Great words of advice. We should never feel bad about asking for help.

  5. I don’t feel bad about hoping that you put a Find My iPhone App on one of your other Apple products, Ann.

  6. It took me a long time to quell the need to explain that two of my three wives had died. Only a day or two ago I was told by a young woman not to feel bad because I needed help to get out of a chair 🙂

  7. I rarely feel bad, don’t see the point, feeling bad doesn’t achieve anything, so let the feeling go and move on, also being a short ass I usually have to ask for help reaching things

    • I don’t feel bad about being a short ass, Joanne, and I feel good after reading your short ass comment.

  8. Historically I feel bad for way too much. This is a post I feel pretty darn good about. And I also don’t feel bad fawning over your kindness and brilliance and thanking you. 🙂

  9. Joanne

    Some days, I feel bad often. I’m going to work on feeling bad less by reading the book you suggested.

    Thanks for the visit!

  10. I’m not feeling bad today, not like a rotten banana, …I’m feeling good today, like a crispy apple, …and I love the Beatles song, I Feel Fine…

  11. I don’t feel bad about not seeing Harley, but I do feel bad about having missed him before, I’ve now learned the good, the bad and the ugly!!!

  12. Pingback: Day 1962: It’s not the end of the world | The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally

  13. How did I miss this blog post? I am not sure, but I think I missed the whole day, yesterday! I feel bad about dropping by a day late, but very good about learning that you are on vacation. I hope that you have fun.

  14. I feel bad i read thos post a day late. I feel bad you can’t find your iPhone. I hope you have do I d it by now!

  15. I feel bad i am typing on my phone and there were typos in my comment I didn’t catch ☺

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