Monthly Archives: March 2018

Day 1906: We fear what we can’t control

I fear I can’t control the news, which included this headline this morning:

We Fear What We Can’t Control About Uber and Facebook

Do you agree that we fear what we can’t control about technology and other aspects of our lives?

If we fear what we can’t control, we must be afraid a lot of the time.

Yesterday, in a therapy group, people expressed fear, anxiety, and depression about things they could not control.  When people offered each other support, I temporarily took control and suggested that members write down and send messages to each other in the group.

Earlier in the day, I took  control of a staff meeting and sang a song about my therapy groups.

You can’t control how I share photos on this blog.

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We can’t control that those are actual diagnosis codes doctors can use about their patients.  Do you fear being bitten by a cow, pecked by a chicken, etc.?

I can’t control what comments you leave but I have no fear about that.

Thanks to all who helped me control today’s blog post and — of course! — to YOU, no matter what you control or fear.

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Day 1905: Can’t Wait

Yesterday, when I told  somebody at work that I might be singing a song about my therapy groups at a meeting today, she said,  “Can’t wait to hear it.”

Can’t wait to tell you the meaning of the idiom “can’t wait”:

Be very eager, anxious, or impatient, as in We can’t wait for the baseball season to begin or I can’t wait to see Dad—it’s been a year. While the literal sense of being unable to wait (for lack of time) is much older, this figurative usage dates only from about 1930. The American Heritage® Idioms Dictionary.

When people say “can’t wait,” my brain sometimes can’t wait to have these thoughts:

What do you mean you can’t wait?  Of course, you can wait. And you will wait, because what you can’t wait for is NOT happening immediately.

I’ve waited a long time to express those thoughts about “can’t wait.”  I can’t wait to tell you how pleased I am that the wait is over.

I can’t wait to show you my four photos from yesterday.

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I can’t wait to tell you that

  • I work in Boston,
  • I wrote about the group exercise What I Know/What I Don’t Know here,
  • the second-to-last entry on my “What I Know” list, above, is “That I have a lot to learn,” and
  • Michael made a delicious cod dish last night.

I can’t wait to share this music with you.

I can’t wait to read comments about this post.  Wait! I will need to wait (but I know the comments will be worth the wait).

As always, I can’t wait to express my gratitude to all who helped me create this “Can’t Wait” post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1904: How to Survive Anything

After surviving another day yesterday, I noticed this magazine at our local supermarket.

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I didn’t buy that, probably because I don’t believe I can survive anything. Eventually, something is going to get me.

In the meantime, I wish there was a survival magazine for penguins …

who are doing fine in the supermarket but are struggling to survive in the wild (see here for more about penguin survival).

If you were going to write something titled “How to Survive Anything,” what might you include?  I would include

  • seeing great movies,

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  • doing things with those you love,

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  • taking bathroom breaks,
  • learning from those around me (including cats),

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  • eating cake,

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  • having all my feelings (including getting pissy sometimes),
  • looking forward to spring,

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  • touching and feeling,
  • feeling better and cheering up,

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  • letting go of worry,

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  • puns,

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  • good food,

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  • kindness, and
  • gratitude to all, including YOU.

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Day 1903: Who does that?

Who tweets on a Saturday when there are so many other things to do?

Who fires somebody right before his retirement and calls it “A great day for Democracy”? I wish I didn’t know.

Who tweeted yesterday,  worked on her taxes, AND went to a wonderful performance of Into the Woods at Brandeis University?

Who believes the United States will survive its current administration?  Who believes that pain and strife can result in growth and learning?

Who takes photos like these?

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Who believes in unicorns? Who believes that time heals all wounds and wounds all heels?

Who does “Who Are You?”

Who does her best to thank those who help her create these blog posts (including the Who) and all who read them, including YOU?  Who?IMG_5757

 

 

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Day 1902: What I Know/What I Don’t Know

What I know, here and now, includes the following:

What I don’t know, here and now, includes the following:

  • What you might put on your lists of what you know and what you don’t know.
  • Why I’m avoiding doing my taxes.
  • Whether I’m going to sing new lyrics I wrote to “Mack the Knife” about my Coping and Healing groups at work next week.
  • Who is going to be the next President of the United States.
  • How you might react to my photos from yesterday.

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I know that Bugles have way too much saturated fat but I didn’t know they were America’s #1 finger hat.  Now I know.

I know I love this Stephen Sondheim song (which you may or may not know from a six-month-old blog post).

Today I could choose to see a Stephen Sondheim musical at a local university and/or work on my taxes.  I don’t know what I’m going to do.

I know this:  I could do both. I’ll let you know tomorrow.

I don’t know what I would do without the people who help me write this blog.  I know I appreciate all of them, including YOU.

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Day 1901: March Madness

While “March Madness” usually refers to the U.S. National Collegiate Athletic Association Division I Men’s Basketball Tournament, I’m going to write about different kinds of March Madness.

Yesterday, I spoke with people about how many losses and deaths we had experienced in the month of March. It seemed like madness when we listed the beloved relatives and friends who had passed away during this one month.

Is it madness that I had this conversation with my dear friend, Megan?

Me:  My father died in March,  but I can’t believe how many people you’ve lost in March.

Megan: It’s crazy!

Me:  It’s traumatizing! I’ll tell you what. In the future, if it looks like I’m going to die in the month of March, I’ll make sure they keep me on life support until I make it to April.

Megan (laughing):  Thank you!

Me: Then maybe I’ll die on April 1st.  I think that’s a good day to die.

Is it madness to talk about our own deaths and to laugh about loss? For me, it helps dispel the madness.

How are you dealing with this year’s madnesses in March?  Personally, I’m glad U.S. students and their families are marching for their lives in March. It’s madness that there’s so much gun violence in the United States.

Was it madness for me to take any of these March photos?

 

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Here‘s the March madness of Metallica playing “Hero of the Day” with the San Francisco Symphonic Orchestra:

Thanks to all the heroes of the day who helped me create this March Madness blog post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1900: What is life?

Because today is the nineteen hundredth consecutive blogging day of The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally, I’d like to mark that milestone by asking an important question.  Now, I could ask my usual question of “But who’s counting?” but I think the question “What is life?” is more important.

What is life, dear readers?

Luckily, I have a photo that may answer that important question.

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Do you agree that life’s an event?

Looking at my other photos from yesterday, I would also say that life is eventful.

It’s been an eventful 1900 days here at The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally, where our creative consciousness is not limited.  Many thanks to all who have helped me create and sustain this daily blog and — OF COURSE! — to YOU.

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Day 1899: I don’t want to deal with _____.

I don’t want to deal with

And yet, I’ve learned to deal with this:  Whatever it is I don’t want to deal with, life will deal me those cards.  I guess that gives me the opportunity to practice and improve my ability to deal.

What don’t YOU want to deal with, here and now?   Three photos from our third Nor’easter in 10 days?

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What helps you deal with things you don’t want to deal with?  For me it’s

  • hearing other people’s opinions,
  • taking a breath,
  • self care,
  • patience,
  • accepting all my feelings,
  • trying a new perspective, and
  • focusing on the things I do want to deal with.

Here’s Erin, who shows how to deal with a cold and people who don’t like her.

Here‘s  the original song “I Don’t Want to Deal with That Right Now.”

Here‘s a tribute to Stephen Hawking (who died on Pi day and Albert Einstein’s birthday).

Right now I do want to deal with your comments.

Please do your best to deal with my gratitude for all who helped me deal with creating another daily blog post and — of course! — YOU.

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Day 1898: Second thought

My first thought right now is, “What should I write about today?”

My second thought is to share this conversation I had with a doctor at work yesterday:

Me:  Hi! What’s going on?

Doctor B: I’m trying to decide what to do.

Me:  About the snow storm tomorrow?

Doctor B: No.  About what I’m dealing with here.

Me:  I suggest going with your second thought.  That seems to be working for me these days.

Doctor B:  Good idea.

My first thought when I heard the predictions about today’s snow storm was to respond the way I usually do:  go into work despite the weather and somehow get home safely.  My second thought was to cancel all my patients and stay home today. And that’s what I’ve done.

What’s your first thought about this blog post so far?  What’s your second thought?

Any first or second thoughts about these photos, all taken at work yesterday?

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Second Thought is “a channel devoted to the things in life worth thinking about” which has 519,303 subscribers, approximately 515,000 more followers than I have (but who’s counting?).

Your first thought might be, “How am I supposed to respond to this blog post?”  I suggest you go with your second thought.

My final thought is always gratitude, so thanks to all who helped me create today’s blog and — of course! — to you, second to none.

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Day 1897: Attention

Do I have your attention?

During the first year of this blog, I published two posts about attention (here and here).  If you give those early posts attention, you might notice how my blog has changed.  These days, I give more attention to photos, like this.

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I also give attention to

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  • books,
  • interesting architecture,
  • food,

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  • singing,

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  • people,
  • work,
  • not being late (which I dreamed about last night, and
  • music.

 

Personally, I have trouble paying attention the day after a time change.  How is your attention, these days?

Thanks to all who helped me give the necessary attention to today’s blog and — of course!  — to YOU, for your attention.

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