When I help people join my therapy groups, I tell them we will work on doing more of what helps and less of what doesn’t help. I help people understand that by saying, “What helps and what doesn’t help might include thoughts, behaviors, and other people.” Because it helps to change old habits by writing things down, I helpfully suggest they keep track of what helps and what doesn’t help them.
Because it helps to know you’re not alone, I explain that I also keep track of what helps and what doesn’t help me.
What helps me?
- My work.
- Mutual healing.
What doesn’t help me?
- Harsh criticism.
- Cognitive distortions.
- Telling myself I should have known better.
Does it help to look at these photos?