Day 1629: What helps and what doesn’t help

When I help people join my therapy groups, I tell them we will work on doing more of what helps and less of what doesn’t help. I help people understand that by saying, “What helps and what doesn’t help  might include thoughts, behaviors,  and other people.”  Because it helps to change old habits by writing things down, I helpfully suggest they keep track of what helps and what doesn’t help them.

Because it helps to know you’re not alone, I explain that I also keep track of what helps and what doesn’t help me.

What helps me?

  • Acceptance.
  • Love.
  • Creativity.
  • Flexibility.
  • Peace.
  • Connection.
  • Nature.
  • Forgiveness.
  • Blogging.
  • My work.
  • Family.
  • Friends.
  • Groups.
  • Mutual healing.
  • Curiosity.
  • Openness.
  • Authenticity.
  • Music.


What doesn’t help me?

Does it help to look at these photos?








What also helps me is gratitude, so thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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24 thoughts on “Day 1629: What helps and what doesn’t help

  1. Yes, Ann, it helps to look at your photos. Thank you today and every day.

  2. I’d just add ‘encouragement’ to your helps; endorse the rest and those that don’t help

  3. You list eighteen things that help and eight things that don’t, but you have posts about four of the things that don’t help and three about the things that do. Does this sort of analysis help or not?

  4. What helps me is considering my choices prior to moving forward. What doesn’t help is allowing fear to paralyze me. What helps is being glad for a job well done. What doesn’t help is worry over things I cannot change. Eyes forward helps me. You help me! I hope I help you. Its what we came here for. 😀

  5. What helps? This. Every single day, even though I don’t comment, I read. Thanks, Ann.

  6. Another winner, and reading this blog always helps me, Ann!

  7. A great list of tips. I think gratitude is my personal favourite. It has helped me through such a lot.

  8. Everyone needs to let go of things that don’t help make them happy being happy is the key to life

  9. It helps to provide to others what I need, I.e., if I need a friend, I need to be a friend. Thanks for this thought provoking post Ann! ♡
    Diana xo

  10. Whimsy ❤️

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