Day 1515: Jealousy

Jealousy is one of those “negative” human emotions  which can make people uncomfortable.

Yesterday, the members of my therapy group discussed jealousy  without judgment. Any jealousy about that?




I doubt there’s any jealousy about my handwriting and drawing abilities. This is what I wrote, yesterday, about jealousy:

  1. Jealousy is a human emotion. I am afraid of other people’s jealousy — I’m afraid the feeling is going to hurt me. But other people’s feelings and thoughts cannot hurt me.
  2. What makes jealousy worse for you? Lack of self-care. Cognitive distortions. Fear. $ Money.
  3. What helps you deal with jealousy? Self care. Recognizing it’s just a feeling. Leaning back and letting jealousy go by me without hurting me.

What are your thoughts and feelings about jealousy?

Do you have jealousy about any of my other photos from yesterday?




















Comparisons — the thief of joy — can often lead to jealousy.

Any jealousy about my having a wonderful son, who is turning 19 today and whose YouTube video has  90,000 views this morning?

Any jealousy about all the gratitude I have for everyone who helped me create this post and — of course! — for you?


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36 thoughts on “Day 1515: Jealousy

  1. A cat makes a lot of biscuits? Maybe I read that wrong. I always want to adopt them all.

    • You didn’t read that wrong, Dawn. We asked about that and were told that “making biscuits” meant the cat likes to knead. I need to tell you we had never, ever heard that expression before.

  2. Your cognitive distortion handout is really helpful. I need to read it regularly!

  3. I am guilty of not always leaning back and letting jealousy go by me… 😐

  4. Trying to never be green is a goal. Your pastries in the bakery case make me drool, though.
    You have the wisest tea bag tags.

  5. To be honest this what I never felt, I mean jealousy feeling… But always people hurt me because of this feeling… This is good or not I don’t know, I mean not to have this feeling, but I know how could be hurtful. Thank you I always love your photographs and posts, Blessing and Happiness, Love, nia

  6. Happy birthday to Aaron! And thank you, thank you for posting that link. A face! I will play it in half an hour when my husband is awake. (It is only 5:30 here)

    Why are you posting bunny pictures lately? Is this a secret code? How are Oscar and Harley?

  7. Jealousy is a waste of energy. Others have shown jealousy towards me and it “hurts”. But that is not my problem so I quietly stay away from them. Your pictures made me smile, Ann, so I thank you! And anyone who adopts that precious feline that is FIV+ will make a wonderful parent. I have a baby with FIV who makes my heart melt he is just that cute. He’s on no meds …. just lots of good food, good water, and of course a LOT of LOVE. No jealousy here, dear friend. It feels wonderful to be free of those chains!! Much Love and Peace to you this day!!! ❤

  8. I made it 90,001 views. Very clever video. Happy Birthday to Aaron.

  9. I am jealous I didn’t write what you wrote about jealousy.

    But it’s part of my thinking and my instinct about jealousy. I think aspiring to be a poet — accepting your vast smallness in the greater world of thoughts and things, and your ultimate hugeness in your own interior world where what you think really does count no matter what, and your solid and strong belonging in both — can kind of wipe away jealousy. Not that poets can’t be the jealous type. But it has worked for me.

  10. Happy birthday, Aaron!
    Many years ago on my 17th birthday an older friend told me he was jealous of me. “Enjoy seventeen,” he said, “because eighteen sucks.” Actually what I learned, although it took many more years, is that every year, even every day, can be great if I choose to make it that way,

  11. … 90337 and counting. Happy birthday Aaron!
    I am a bit jealous of those water views Ann… but I can let it go 💛

  12. Wishing I were someone else, or like someone else? Not so much anymore, but the feeling is awful–especially when what I’m jealous of in others is already in me. Or–there’s something else in me that I haven’t yet learned to love and value. I think women struggle with this in different ways than men. Not just about how we look, but about what we wish we’d done with our lives–and there’s that so and so over there who did it or has it, and I didn’t or don’t. Which, of course, doesn’t help us connect as women. It takes a lot of courage to love ourselves and each other just the way we are–and know that who we are is more than enough. 🙂

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  14. “Jealousy is bred in doubts. When those doubts change into certainties, then the passion either ceases or turns absolute madness.”- Francois de La Rochefoucauld

  15. Omg, I just played Aaron’s video and laughed aloud all alone in my living room in the dark! Wonderful!,,

  16. i’m left feeling sympathetic
    joy for other’s good fortune 🙂

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