Day 1486: You don’t want to do that

I don’t want to do overgeneralization (or any other cognitive distortion), but most people don’t want others to tell them what they do want or don’t want to do.

I don’t want to break confidentiality, so I won’t identify the person in therapy yesterday who expressed frustration with a family member who tells others what they want, don’t want, or otherwise experience.

I don’t want to brag, but two years ago I made a t-shirt that says, “The Expert on My Own Experience.” I don’t want to give that t-shirt away, but I think my therapy patient could use that t-shirt, especially when dealing with that opinionated family member.

I don’t want to be too negative about the near future, but I posted this on Facebook last night:

I survived open heart surgery, but how will my heart survive the next four years?

You don’t want to miss  all my photos from yesterday:









You don’t want to pay $20,078.33 for heart surgery, especially when that charge is the result of somebody entering the wrong diagnostic code.



You don’t want to live on Nathan Lane, because that would be uncomfortable for both of you.

You don’t want to watch Nathan Lane in Stephen Sondheim‘s A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum?  Then don’t.


You don’t want to leave a comment for this post? That’s okay, too.

You don’t want to go too long without expressing gratitude, so I want to thank everyone who helped me create this post and you — of course! — for wanting to visit here, now.


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31 thoughts on “Day 1486: You don’t want to do that

  1. You don’t want to ever stop blogging and sharing your wonderful stories and pictures.

  2. I guess we all know someone like that – I listen carefully and then do the opposite (unless the advice or order was good of course!)

  3. I don’t want to miss leaving a comment, though some mornings I do.
    I don’t want to forget to say — you make my day sunny and bright whenever I come to visit.
    I definitely don’t want to say thank you for sharing your day in photos.
    And I definitely want to say, Good morning to your beautiful heart — it’s been through a lot and still keeps beating strong — though that bill might be a bit of a heart-skipper!

  4. You don’t want to tell me what to do, because then I’ll tell you what to do. Not a happy loop to be stuck in. Thank you for bringing a smile to the unexpected.
    I hope you get the insurance company to change the code!!! That would have made my heart skip a beat or two 💛

    • You don’t want to pay for other people’s mistakes. I called the Mayo Clinic today and they said everything has been straightened out with the insurance company. That and your comment both brought me a smile, Val.

  5. I would love to see A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum!

  6. Giving advice is preferable to telling others what to do so I’ll offer this advice from Groucho Marx: “Learn from the mistakes of others. You won’t live long enough to make them all yourself.”

  7. I don’t want to go to the gym so I’m on the computer instead.

  8. So what ‘s the best 2 do?

  9. That is a bloody high bill, just saying, also have to say the first bit made me think of my daughter Kathy-Lee wanting me to do all my shopping online so I don’t have to go out, I like going shopping I like getting out of the house. My sister is the same with mum not wanting her to go out and to stay home all the time and let herself (sister) do all mums shopping and such, mum likes getting out of the house.

  10. The kitty photo is priceless! $20 thousand!!! My Canadian heart nearly stopped!! I cannot imagine. That tshirt sounds really amazing and is a great truth.

  11. One of my pet peeves Ann. I can relate.

  12. You don’t want to know what I did after I read your post. I FaceTimed Harley, and he’s bringing me some food!

  13. Pingback: Day 1761: Frustrating | The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally

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