Day 1145: Comparisons

When I woke up this morning in my incomparable friend Jeanette’s home in Philadelphia, I knew today’s blog post would be called “Comparisons.”

Comparing myself to other human beings, I think we all do many comparisons, every day,  including:

  • Comparisons of ourselves to other people.
  • Comparisons of the present to the past.
  • Comparisons of reality to what we think should be.

How would you compare my comparatively short list of common comparisons to comparisons you’ve noticed?

Compared to other definitions, here’s how “Comparisons” are defined in my list of Cognitive Distortions (Automatic and Unhelpful Thoughts):

We compare ourselves to others, with ourselves coming out short. For example, “I’m not as smart (or good, competent, good-looking, lovable, etc.) as that other person.” Or, we compare ourselves to how we think we should be, or how we’ve been before. We might think that comparisons help motivate us, but they usually make us feel worse.

Comparing this to other blog posts I’ve written, I need to include:

  1. an explanation of why “Comparisons” was on my mind when I woke up.  In two days, I’ll be trying out for “The Voice,” where my voice will be compared to thousands of others.
  2. photos, which could be compared to each other and/or to other photos you’ve seen.

I am now comparing the size of two of those photos, above,  to what I want them to be.  Here are the two Rumi quotes on Jeanette’s kitchen cabinets, comparatively larger, so you can compare them:



How would you compare this post to others?

Many thanks to Jeanette, to Rumi, and to my readers, all beyond compare.

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37 thoughts on “Day 1145: Comparisons

  1. Good morning Ann. I wanted to write a comment beyond compare but no coffee yet. It’s still early. I googled a quotation using compare in it and got 130 and decided I’d just say have a good time with your dear friend and good luck with the audition. In case anyone else needs a thought on comparisons. Cheers!

  2. Eleanor

    But you are incomparable!

  3. Can you believe that Grumpy is with Ann, and I need her to edit my book. There just isn’t any comparison possible. Can I borrow your cel Harley? At least we can Face Time each other.

  4. I have a bad habit of reading memoirs of people I admire even though I inevitably feel guilty and think, “Ah, I could be just like Simon Pegg if I’d only…” And then I remind myself how unproductive those thoughts are and that I hopefully have my own unique contributions to offer the world. And then I think other people have the same thoughts and it comforts me to think I’m not alone. So comparisons can be good or bad and I feel I’m comparing myself to Hamlet who said, “there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
    The Rumi quotes remind me of when I used to go to poetry readings at coffee shops and one guy regularly read a few Rumi poems. The rest of us would read our own work but I liked him not only because I liked the Rumi poems but he did something different.
    Rumi was the first whirling Dervish which brings me back to comparisons because I feel like I whirl through cycles of guilt and remonstrance. The Sufi practice of whirling is a meditative way to shed oneself of personal desires, so I think it might be a good thing after all.

  5. Hi Ann! Two days to go!!!! Have you compared the songs you have chosen, and come up with the one you will sing? I am glad you arrived safely. What is that fishing thing in that one picture? It is quite curious. Have I told you that you are an incomparable blogger? Because you are. I hope you have a lovely day in Philadelphia!

    • Thank you for this incomparable comment with all these comparatively wonderful questions, SD. Here are my answers:
      Yes, “Mad World.”
      The fishing thing is something I got a long time ago and I love that it reminds me of this saying, ” Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”
      You have told me, in your own incomparable way.

      • I love that fishing thing!!! Very cool!!! I am glad you picked “Mad World”!!!! I think you are going to do fabulously!!!!

  6. I think comparisons do make us better too. That competitiveness it brings props many to greatness. It just depends on how a person interprets the comparison.

  7. It can be useful to compare if we do not then judge. Sometime I compare and then can improve something,

  8. I’m so excited for you! I know your audition will be incomparable!

  9. You compare favourably to anyone. I know that quote about friendship, and love it. My favourite one in fact 🙂

  10. Those two little dogs under the green umbrella can’t be compared.

  11. Carol Ferenc

    “Let the beauty we love be what we do.” If we all followed this practice, our world would be even more incomparable than it already is. Love this, Ann!

  12. This post compares well with the other posts. That is for certain. However, comparison can be good and can be bad too 🙂

  13. From what you have said about your motivation for The Voice, you will be able to forget comparisons and just deliver your best

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