When I woke up this morning in my incomparable friend Jeanette’s home in Philadelphia, I knew today’s blog post would be called “Comparisons.”
Comparing myself to other human beings, I think we all do many comparisons, every day, including:
- Comparisons of ourselves to other people.
- Comparisons of the present to the past.
- Comparisons of reality to what we think should be.
How would you compare my comparatively short list of common comparisons to comparisons you’ve noticed?
Compared to other definitions, here’s how “Comparisons” are defined in my list of Cognitive Distortions (Automatic and Unhelpful Thoughts):
We compare ourselves to others, with ourselves coming out short. For example, “I’m not as smart (or good, competent, good-looking, lovable, etc.) as that other person.” Or, we compare ourselves to how we think we should be, or how we’ve been before. We might think that comparisons help motivate us, but they usually make us feel worse.
Comparing this to other blog posts I’ve written, I need to include:
- an explanation of why “Comparisons” was on my mind when I woke up. In two days, I’ll be trying out for “The Voice,” where my voice will be compared to thousands of others.
- photos, which could be compared to each other and/or to other photos you’ve seen.
I am now comparing the size of two of those photos, above, to what I want them to be. Here are the two Rumi quotes on Jeanette’s kitchen cabinets, comparatively larger, so you can compare them:
How would you compare this post to others?
Many thanks to Jeanette, to Rumi, and to my readers, all beyond compare.