In my therapy groups, people often express concern about the people who are not there. In response, I invite them to focus on the people who are there, including themselves.
I understand how those who are not there can overshadow those who are there. For example, this morning I spent some time wondering and worrying about people who used to show up regularly in the comment section of this blog, but who are not there. I can focus a lot on the people in my life who are not there (like my late parents) rather than the people who are there.
I am going to follow my own advice, today, and focus on the people who are there, including myself. I believe this will serve me well, as I
- give a presentation on my groups to my fellow social workers,
- run two therapy groups,
- sit with people who are there for individual therapy, and
- check who has visited this blog, throughout the day.
What might help me focus on what is there, rather than on what is not there?
Mindfulness — the practice of being as much as possible in the moment — helps me and others focus on what’s here and what’s now.
What’s there, in that photo? Those leaves — which are not there on trees any more — are going to help me and others be mindful of what is there, throughout the day.
There are lots of things I saw yesterday which are not there on my iPhone. Here are the photos that are there, here and now:
What music do you expect to be there, now, in this post? While “Stairway to Heaven” and “Born to be Wild” could easily be there, I’m choosing this song, instead.
Thanks for being there!