If you — like lots of other people — have automatic negative thoughts, some therapists recommend that you talk to yourself.
Here are some examples of how I talk to myself, challenging habitual and unhelpful thoughts:
That person seems to have a negative opinion about me BUT I ACTUALLY DON’T KNOW THAT.
If that person has a negative opinion about me IT WON’T HURT ME AS MUCH AS I FEAR.
My writing sucks right now BUT IT’S GOOD ENOUGH, AND I CAN MAKE IT BETTER.
I feel like I look really weird BUT NOBODY NOTICES THAT.
I’ve made a mistake BUT IT’S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.
I may feel like I’m alone with this problem BUT I CAN ASK FOR HELP.
I just talked to myself and told myself those were enough examples.
If you have this thought:
People are going to think I’m nuts if I’m talking to myself!
… take a look around and talk to yourself like so:
Don’t most people look like they’re talking to themselves, these days?
And who cares what they think, anyway?!?!?!
Can you imagine how I was talking to myself, yesterday, as I was taking these pictures?
Now, I’m talking to myself about what music to include in this post.
There’s this, with Clint Eastwood singing to himself:
Don’t talk to yourself about this post; instead, share that self-talk in a comment.
I talk to myself all the time about how grateful I am to have this blog. Today is no exception! Talk to yourselves, please, about how much I appreciate you for visiting here today.