Day 1010: I talk to myself

If you — like lots of other people — have automatic negative thoughts, some therapists recommend that you talk to yourself.

Here are some examples of how I talk to myself, challenging habitual and unhelpful thoughts:

That person seems to have a negative opinion about me BUT I ACTUALLY DON’T KNOW THAT.

If that person has a negative opinion about me IT WON’T HURT ME AS MUCH AS I FEAR.

My writing sucks right now BUT IT’S GOOD ENOUGH, AND I CAN MAKE IT BETTER.

I feel like I look really weird BUT NOBODY NOTICES THAT.

I’ve made a mistake BUT IT’S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.

I may feel like I’m alone with this problem BUT I CAN ASK FOR HELP.

I just talked to myself and told myself those were enough examples.

If you have this thought:

People are going to think I’m nuts if I’m talking to myself!

… take a look around and talk to yourself like so:

Don’t most people look like they’re talking to themselves, these days?

And who cares what they think, anyway?!?!?!

Can you imagine how I was talking to myself, yesterday, as I was taking these pictures?




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Now, I’m talking to myself about what music to include in this post.

There’s this, with Clint Eastwood singing to himself:

And there’s this, with the Smothers Brothers talking to (1) Judy Garland, (2) themselves, (3) each other, and (4) a TV audience:

Don’t talk to yourself about this post; instead, share that self-talk in a comment.

I talk to myself all the time about how grateful I am to have this blog. Today is no exception! Talk to yourselves, please, about how much I appreciate you for visiting here today.

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56 thoughts on “Day 1010: I talk to myself

  1. When I saw the title I thought “I talk to the tress” … and there Clint was!
    Talking to ourselves is very helpful in shifting our mood and changing our thoughts. Did you know there are apps for that now Ann. Google Mindtools and see. Its pretty neat!
    The bonus is that people think you’re using your smartphone instead of talking to yourself 😉

  2. I haven’t watched the clips yet but just wanted to say that the whole talking-to-yourself/myself either via blogging or just internally is a brilliant way of becoming calm (I used to be so frantic!)

  3. amusez798387

    When facing a difficult situation I often think, “Happiness is accepting what is” . Also I think, “This is an unhelpful thought”. Today as I am preparing a program for a small group I tell myself “I can do this and it does not have to be perfect.”

  4. Clint Eastwood in a musical…so glad he went another direction. My self talk has changed a lot over the years, much more positive now. It took a while. I think it came when I realized that my life is my own, and my voice is the strongest, so it better be a good one. ☺

  5. yeoldefoole

    “If you are not properly dressed do not enter this job site”… that’s poem-fodder!!!

  6. This is good advice. Sometimes it’s hard to get a word in edgeways when my automatic negative thinker has verbal diaorrhea, but I will persevere.

  7. I feel I write to myself for all the non-response I often get 🙂

    as for trees: from one of my favourite childhood songs: ‘whispering grass don’t tell the trees’ ….

  8. Sometimes I’ve heard people say “If you talk to yourself you’re sane, if you answer back you’re crazy.” I’ve never understood that because it’s impolite to not answer when someone talks to you, even when you’re talking to yourself. Every time I listen to The Smothers Brothers I always ask myself, “How can Dick be the one mom always did like best?” And I reply that parents should never play favorites. Then a third voice intrudes to say I shouldn’t play favorites either because The Smothers Brothers are a brilliant team and a fourth voice has to point out that’s not what I meant, and before I know it there’s a cacophony of voices yelling at each other, except for one voice in the background that sounds like it’s saying, “Has anyone seen my keys?”
    I had no idea “I Talk To The Trees” was sung by Clint Eastwood. I only knew it from The Smothers Brothers, but I’m not going to play favorites. I think instead I need some tea.

  9. i’m good enough
    i’m smart enough
    i’m worthy
    or not 🙂

  10. I talk to my mind when it starts going around and around and around with random thoughts and negative input and tell it to be quiet while I think of calm places.

  11. I love, love, love the Smother’s Brothers’ take on the tree song. Hilarious and somehow touching. I wasn’t familiar with this song and associated Clint Eastwood more with The Good, The Bad and the Ugly than with talking to trees. Very sensitive of him, though.

    By the way, in case you didn’t know, I never have negative thoughts about you and your writing is always better than good enough. 🙂

  12. I said to myself, self, Ann says it’s OK to talk to yourself. Good enough for me, says I.

  13. It’s fine to talk to yourself. That’s when one most often receives an honest answer to one’s questions.

  14. Amber Danette

    I often talk to Myself 🙂

  15. Yes I talk to myself it helps me sort things out in my own head, granted I don’t go around talking to myself aloud so everyone can hear me and think I am not quiet with it, but talking to ones self can be so helpful to help us get things clear although at times I have to tell myself to shut the hell up as I am talking rubbish I am not fat and a failure, I am a large woman who is loved by many not all as trust me some people don’t like me, yeah I know what is wrong with them but still they are out there

  16. Ann, Clint was wrong the trees do listen, they just don’t answer back! ❤
    Diana xo

  17. Our streets are full of people with auditory hallucinations. They all have voices in their heads, and cables hanging from their ears.

  18. I want to automatically remember this post when I need it most. 😉 Thank you Ann.

  19. amy eden

    seeing the smothers brothers after all these years! Very funny- and I can always use a good laugh. thanks

  20. I talk to myself, but often both of us get confused and we need an outside opinion to set us straight.

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