Day 928: Self

Yesterday, when I was driving my self into work, this was the first photo I self-ishly took:

I said to my self, “I can see myself driving that very car. AND I can imagine myself using that ‘shady’ license plate to inspire myself in creating tomorrow’s blog post.”

From then on, my observing self looked for things that were “shady.” As a result, I took these photos, by my self, for my self:

Do you see anything shady there, for yourself?

I, myself,  would like to share this with your self: moments after I snapped that last image by myself, a police-escorted Mercedes drove by, and Fanon, at my work parking garage, self-lessly told me, “Look! It’s Billy Joel! He’s about to go on and rock it!”

And I heard myself reply, “You are rocking it, too.”

Then, after I drove myself home after a very long workday,  I was pumping gas by myself and I saw this for my self:

And I thought to my self, “I might like that — even better — for a post title.”

I then allowed myself to think back on my day at work, where I, my self,  had witnessed all of this:

  • Somebody declaring himself cured because he felt cared for.
  • Another self worrying about being too selfish.
  • Somebody selflessly welcoming another self into a therapy group for the first time.
  • Two adult selves — who had just met — selflessly and selfishly sharing that they both felt like small, vulnerable and childlike versions of themselves, and that it helped to ground themselves by looking at themselves in the mirror — thus reassuring themselves they were grown and safe,  in the moment.
  • Many selves focusing on self-worth, self-esteem, and self-awareness.

And I said to myself (still standing at the self-serve island of the gas station):

“Self” is the title for my 928th consecutive, daily post!

Later, I took one more photo for my self.

There’s Harley, all by him self.

What music would you choose now, by and for your self?

Eric Carmen is singing “All By Myself,”  accompanying him self on the piano.

Selfish AND shady thanks to Eric Carmen, Billy Joel, Harley, Fanon, and all those I witnessed working on themselves yesterday. Also, special thanks to you — of course! — for bringing yourself here, today.

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39 thoughts on “Day 928: Self

  1. I am glad you came out of the shady shadows to reveal your true self Ann and to share the selfless work you do to help people know their true selves.

  2. There’s nothing shady about your good self Ann!
    Who is the shady guy in the old photo? Looks like a politician or a gangster ….
    Also the dude with the smoothie. He doesn’t look that shady … but he seems to know himself!

    • I’m beside my self with joy whenever you visit, Val! I don’t know who that shady-looking guy is — he’s one of the many characters on display on the fences surrounding Friendly Fenway Park. The smooth dude was somebody who struck that pose welcoming the beautiful weather when he came out of Starbucks. I selfishly asked him if I could take his photo and he selflessly agreed!

  3. Update from the number one RedSox fan in PA … “I have no clue” !

  4. I like the San Quentin bus.

  5. It’s a very hot summer right now and shade can be a source of relief. It’s better to share the shade, though, because it can get lonely there in the dark. That’s something I wouldn’t have thought of by myself.

  6. Funny — the first thing I did, before reading on was to study the first photo for a clue as to what, exactly, you were photographing That’s totally out of character for me, or rather, it’s a new tendency — to search for my own answer before reading on to find out the “right” one.

    What I saw: the two arrows in the top left corner, pointing in completely different directions. And I thought this was going to be about decisions.

    But it’s about shade and shadows.

    In the summer, I am always looking for the shadows, and try to walk on the shady side of the street. In the winter, I do the opposite.

    • Funny — I, myself, think this post was also about decisions! I’m so glad you decided to share your thoughts today.

  7. More good townscapes. But no selfie?

  8. From my self to your self, here’s one of my favourite self songs… Laura Branigan’s – Self Control

  9. If you get a similar car for yourself, Ann, you’ll have it made in the shade.

  10. You are the most selfless person I know on WP, Ann, and i really love the way you strive to help others in their quest for self-awareness. I love the ‘shady’ photos too. The Eric Carmen song/video is a lovely trip down Memory Lane, Thank you!

  11. My daughter showed me this video on one of her visits, Ann. It’s called the selfie song.

  12. “The greatest hazard of all, losing one’s self, can occur very quietly in the world, as if it were nothing at all. No other loss can occur so quietly; any other loss – an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc. – is sure to be noticed.”
    ― Søren Kierkegaard, The Sickness Unto Death
    The self and the soul, the invisible…

    • “This sickness unto death is what Kierkegaard calls despair. According to Kierkegaard, an individual is “in despair” if he does not align himself with God or God’s plan for the self. In this way he loses his self, which Kierkegaard defines as the “relation’s relating itself to itself in the relation.” Kierkegaard defines humanity as the tension between the “finite and infinite”, and the “possible and the necessary”, and is identifiable with the dialectical balancing act between these opposing features, the relation. While humans are inherently reflective and self-conscious beings, to become a true self one must not only be conscious of the self but also be conscious of being aligned with a higher purpose, viz God’s plan for the Self. When one either denies this Self or the power that creates and sustains this Self, one is in despair…

      “To not be in despair is to have reconciled the finite with the infinite, to exist in awareness of one’s own self and of God. Specifically, Kierkegaard defines the opposite of despair as faith, which he describes by the following: “In relating itself to itself, and in willing to be itself, the self rests transparently in the power that established it.””-Wiki

      • Myself and others (I am sure) greatly appreciate how you yourself, Maria, leave such interesting and educational comments. ❤ ❤

      • Thanks Ann! Kierkegaard is considered to be the father of existentialism but he still believed in God, so this keeps him in a separate category, because later Nietzsche and Sartre were the existentialist atheists. So his concept of Faith made him a much different philosopher.

      • Great to know about Kierkegaard, himself, thanks to your helpful self, Maria!

      • Thanks to you Ann, because “self” made me think of existentialist philosophy, but couldn’t decide which philosopher to quote for your post. Kierkegaard made more sense, since “faith” is a concept atheists do not believe in, and he did. The phrase “leap of faith” is attributed to Kierkegaard (Wiki), but it originally meant “leap to faith’. I personally think faith is a belief in the world of infinite possibilities. I also think of faith as “hope”:

        “Hope” is the thing with feathers –
        That perches in the soul –
        And sings the tune without the words –
        And never stops – at all -“-Emily Dickinson

      • All our selves need hope, Maria. Thank you.

  13. Knowing your self is probably one of life’s most difficult riddles.

  14. Ann, I love this blog. I love that you pick a word for the day and go with it. It is wonderful that you took pictures for your self but then selflessly shared them with all our selves. Brilliant!!!!!!

    • SD! Thank you SO much. One of my recent posts was titled “It Takes One to Know One” and — based on what I’ve read over at your blog — you’re brilliant, too!

  15. Pingback: Day 1642: Self Centered | The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally

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