- Identify, as clearly as possible in the moment, what you need.
- Identify who is most likely to help you get that need met.
- Let go of any worries and concerns about what might happen if you ask for what you need.
- If you don’t get what you need, ask again.
- If you don’t get what you need after asking somebody again, ask somebody else.
- If nobody is giving you what you asked for, consider whether you are asking the best people and whether you are asking clearly.
- Ask again.
- If asking others is still not yielding satisfactory results, consider ways to meet that need on your own.
- Let go of any negative thoughts or shame that came up for you, in steps 1 – 9.
Lately, I’ve been asking for what I need in many areas, including:
- Help with my taxes.
- Decisions about my health.
- Singing at a party, next week.
Here are some photos I took yesterday to meet my needs, without asking.
Here’s a song about needing and wanting:
If you need or want to see The Rolling Stones performing “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” on the David Frost Show, you can ask for that on YouTube.
I hope you ask for what you need, after reading this post.
I need to thank all those who helped me create this post today, especially the wonderful people at Tufts Medical Center and Beacon Hill Dental Associates, who met my very important need yesterday of getting my teeth cleaned. I also want to thank the Charles Street area of Boston MA USA, PetSmart, Staples, the Rolling Stones, David Frost, and — of course! — you, my readers, whom I need (in case you need to ask).