As you may have found out from this recent post, I love making up tests for people.
So why wait?
Today’s Terminator Test
1. “The Terminator” is:
a. The name of a movie starring Arnold Schwarzenegger, Michael Biehn, and Linda Hamilton, directed by James Cameron and written by Gale Anne Hurd and Cameron.
b. One of my favorite movies.
c. A nickname I’ve given myself, on the job.
d. All of the above.
2. Now that you’ve read this post so far, you’re curious about why:
a. “The Terminator” is one of my favorite movies.
b. James Cameron.
c. I’m starting my post this way.
d. I’ve given myself the nickname of “The Terminator.
e. Some of the above.
f. All of the above.
g. None of the above.
The answer to #1 is d.
Only you, dear reader, know the answer to #2.
No matter what you’re curious about right now, I shall tell you why I’ve given myself the nickname of “The Terminator.”
- “Termination” is the term, in the psychotherapy biz, for saying goodbye to a relationship.
- I am RELENTLESS about facilitating goodbyes, when I’m on the job.
- I’m in the psychotherapy biz.
Here are some things I’ve learned, in my years of being “The Terminator”:
- Most people have trouble with goodbyes.
- Human beings tend to deal with goodbyes with some measure of denial.
- Goodbyes can evoke a lot of reactions, including sadness, anger, and numbness.
- People can get better at goodbyes, especially with practice.
- A better goodbye often involves allowing room for (a) appreciation for specifics and (b) unexpressed feelings that are getting in the way of connecting authentically.
- I do goodbyes in psychotherapy by inviting people to identify and discuss (a) what they got out of therapy (which includes the relationship with me) and (b) what they did NOT get out of therapy.
Termination is on my mind today, because there are several goodbyes going on around me. For example, there’s one going on at work, very early this morning, for Jackie:
Now, Jackie, if she reads this blog (and she does, some times), might get mad at me because I took one candid shot of her yesterday, when she wasn’t looking. I DON’T CARE! I’M MAD AT HER FOR LEAVING!
By the way, Jackie knows I’m mad at her. I’ve told her that every day I’ve seen her since she announced her termination, about two weeks ago. As a matter of fact, I told her I was mad at her right before I snapped those photos. As you can see, she doesn’t seem concerned.
Jackie’s lack of concern about what other people think is one of the many, many things I love about her and will miss, very much.
Since I don’t expect my readers to say:
“I’ll be back” after returning from checking out ANY FRIGGIN’ LINKS I INCLUDE IN THESE POSTS, here are more photos of Jackie, from some of those previous posts.
One of those photos I’ve never posted before. Should I test people on which one that is?
Oh, forget it. I’ve got to terminate this post and go terminate with Jackie.
Many thanks to nice terminators of all kinds and to you — of course! — for temporarily terminating other things in order to read this, today.
* Jackie actually may not appear in all those posts. Those are the posts that WordPress returns in response to my searching on “Jackie.” I don’t have time to fix that, though. Why? I have to leave for a RIDICULOUSLY EARLY GOODBYE PARTY, PEOPLE (and be a terminator).