I don’t know if this is bragging, but in the full two years of my daily posts here, I’ve written only one post with the word “bragging” in the title, and that was 517 days ago.*
As I mention in that past post — “Bragging, Fear of Envy, and Healing” — bragging does not come easy to me. I actually have some fears about it.
I just skimmed that past post. I think it’s good.
Is that bragging?
I didn’t read it carefully because I assumed it was good enough, because I wrote it (as I write all my posts) with heart-felt authenticity.
Is that bragging?
Here’s what my long-time friend Gene wrote in the comments section of that long-ago post:
This may be my favorite of all your posts, especially the first half which was so movingly personal and at the same time pointing to universal concerns.
Is that bragging?
I’m thinking about the title I chose today — “Bragging Rights” — and how human beings can express concerns and needs to have a “right” to certain actions and feelings.
As a psychotherapist, I constantly witness people saying things like:
- I (or they) did not have a right to be angry.
- I don’t have a right to feel good about this.
- I got upset, and it wasn’t justified.
- I had no right to be crying like that.
- I’d like to challenge that person, but I don’t know if I have a right to do that.
As I tell people over and over again (and I have a right to do that), there is no “right” or “wrong” about feelings. Feelings just are. We have them, as human beings. If we don’t interfere with those feelings — by judging them — they will flow through our lives, naturally — like the weather.
I stole that emotion-weather metaphor from my friend Carol and her friend Eric.
Is that bragging? Do I have a right to do that?
Here are some specific things I’d like to brag about today:
- I’m taking a day off from work, BECAUSE I DESERVE IT!!
- Three days ago, one of the primary care doctors I work with came to get me in my office, in response to my telling him (and everybody else on my teams) that I was committed to and passionate about being available to his patients and to him if anybody ever seemed upset, overwhelmed, depressed, or anxious during a doctor’s visit. The doctor told me he was seeing a patient who could not stop crying. Without taking much time to hear or find out more about this patient, I went into the examining room with him, met her, heard her story, listened actively, expressed my authentic reactions, and told her about possible supports where I work and elsewhere, including the groups I offer there. My time with this patient was, approximately, fifteen minutes,* including walking her over to another part of the enormous hospital where I work, where an expert on violence prevention and recovery was eager to speak to her, also.
- Two days ago, I ran into the doctor who came to get me. He told me the patient had called him, expressing gratitude, and had said, “I felt a spiritual shift, when I realized that you people cared about me.”
- I recently received this email, from the Northeast Society for Group Psychotherapy:
Dear Ann Koplow:
We are very pleased to accept your workshop proposal entitled, “ Come One, Come All, Whenever! A new model for open access groups.” for the June 2014 NSGP Conference. This year’s conference is entitled Getting Real: Vulnerability and Effective Group Leadership and will be held June 5, 6, and 7, 2015 at Simmons College.
- I’m especially bragging about that last bullet point since (1) two years ago I tried to give a workshop there and it was cancelled due to low registration** and (2) there are very few workshop slots available this year, because of changes to that organization’s yearly conference schedule.
- I was recently elected to the board of the organization giving the conference. Does that give me more or fewer bragging rights?
Is it bragging if I tell you that I think the photos I take with my iPhone are worth posting here?
Is it bragging if I tell you that I didn’t take many photos yesterday and I’ve decided to repeat some photos from yesterday’s post, which was about the possible small change of my changing my profile picture here at WordPress?
So far, here is the photo with the most votes from my readers:
Eeeek! While I appreciate the votes for that picture of me, I’m probably NOT going to use that for my new profile picture, since I personally feel nervous and a little scared when I see people wearing medical masks.
Here are some images that I am seriously considering for my profile picture:
Is it bragging to tell you this? I am currently leaning towards one of those, because when I showed the candidates to my boyfriend Michael yesterday, he said
Wow. If somebody showed me that and asked “Who does that look like?” I’d say … “Ann!”
Would anybody like to guess which one that might be? And, please, do not be afraid to brag about your preference for a better choice (or anything else, more important and personal to you).
I’m not sure what music to include here, that fits today’s topic of Bragging.
I know! Here’s me, singing and playing Steely Dan’s “Pretzel Logic,” previously appearing in a post I wrote 117 days ago.*
That video is found here on YouTube and it has 66 views and no (critical) comments!
Is that bragging?
Many thanks, from the bottom of my bragging and very special heart,** to all my very special readers, ** including YOU, of course.
* In previous posts, I’ve written “But who’s counting?” after I refer to something with numbers from the past. Today, I’m going to brag about who’s counting. It’s me!
** And I’m not bragging!