Day 723: What’s been going on?

Yesterday, in my therapy office, people discussed going to gatherings for the Christmas holiday, where friends and family would probably be asking them

What’s been going on?

or some other form of that question.

As we discussed that likely question, there was concern about how to answer it and how others might respond to the answers.

I hear that a lot — concern about reactions from others, regarding what people have or have not been doing with their lives. Those concerns usually heighten when holidays, reunions, and other social gatherings are going on.

Yesterday, we discussed and expanded the possible answers for the question

What’s been going on?

to include these:






Besides realizing there were many possible ways to respond to that question (including several not shown above), it also helped to realize that

  • other people’s reactions don’t matter as much as we fear,
  • other people often are more interested in telling you what’s going on with them (than judging what’s going on with you), and
  • you can answer “What’s been going on?” however you choose.

Regular readers of my blog might be wondering

what’s been going on

with me, after I took a cardiac stress test yesterday.  I suppose I could respond with one of the answers listed above, but instead I’ll tell you that

  • I don’t have any new information to report and
  • I met some new people who had things going on with them, yesterday, including:


Al, whom I met in the parking lot of Tufts Medical Center before my stress test, and who told me  he

  1. has been wearing hats like that for 30 years,
  2. owns many varieties of them, in 13 colors, and
  3. always wears one when he goes to the hospital.

Al definitely has a lot going on, don’t you think?

I also met Jason


a cardiology fellow who was conducting my stress test. After the stress test, Jason looked at my record  to see what’s been going on with me, and said, “I see that you’ll be consulting with Dr. Michael Landzberg next month.”  As I  told you so here yesterday, there’s been a lot going on in my life regarding this Michael Landzberg (even before I’ve met him), since Dr. Landzberg is THE expert on people with unusual hearts like mine. I wasn’t surprised, at all, that Jason knew Dr. Landzberg, since that level of Landzbergian recognition has been going on a lot, lately.

However, I didn’t really know what was going on at that point, because  Jason then said,

He’s my father-in-law.

What’s been going on, with all these friggin’ coincidences?

What’s been going on here, visually, has included Al, Jason, and a third man, too:

IMG_3929 IMG_3927 IMG_3926

Yesterday afternoon, when I met with my supervisor, Lynda, at work, she asked me

What’s been going on?

and when she heard all that’s been going on with me lately, she said,

It’s too bad you don’t have ten days off during this time, to relax.

No matter what’s been going on with me, I love — and am sustained by — my work, providing individual and group therapy to people who have a lot going on with them.  I’m doing fine, dealing with what’s been going on with me.

What’s been going on with you?

Finally, here’s what’s (been) going on, according to a late and great musical artist:

Many thanks to Al, Jason, Santa, Dr. Landzberg, Lynda, Marvin Gaye, and all those who are doing their best to deal with what’s been going on with them, including you, of course!

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32 thoughts on “Day 723: What’s been going on?

  1. Well, here’s to Dr. Grossman’s Father in law getting you all straightened out….

    “Oh, you know we’ve got to find a way. To bring some understanding here today”

  2. Amazing hat(s) and story behind it!

  3. Look a baby wolf!! hahaha
    Thank you for the update on what’s been going on!
    Val x

    • Isn’t that funny, Val? I wish I could take credit for what was going on there. Hugs and thanks for stopping by here, on Christmas Eve!

  4. yeoldefoole

    “And the beat goes on…”

  5. 🙂 Happiest of holidays to you!

  6. Love the “Look! A baby wolf!” suggestion.

    I hope that you have at least a few days off to relax and have a little less going on, Ann. And – it would be okay for you to take a few days off from blogging, you know. (Is this heresy?) You could even invite a guest blogger to step up from time to time. Michael could blog his recipes. Aaron could blog his misheard lyrics. (Just a thought)

    Wishing you peace,energy and creativity for the holidays.

    • I have one day off, Maureen, and then I return to work on Friday. What continues to go on for me is that blogging helps me, very much, so I’m afraid you’re stuck with me.

      Also, I stole the best line of today’s post from Michael (“Look! A baby wolf!”) so I just don’t know what would go on if he took over this blog, even for a day.

  7. No answers yet, so I hope you can just relax with that and have not much going on!

  8. Ann,
    A Blessed and Merry Christmas, to you, your family and loved ones. And all good things, especially healing, in the New Year.

    • What goes on for me when I receive such a kind message from you, Alan? Gratitude and a return of all your wishes, to you and yours.

  9. Sometimes we just don’t know what’s going on because there’s too much going on, Ann. Keep your head clear and your mind sharp. Happy holiday to you and Michael and Aaron.

  10. No one ever gets a straight answer from me on this. Most times, I’ll tell them a story I heard on NPR. Merry Christmas to you friend!

  11. I came, I read and I am a bit drunk so I will leave now watch me stumble out the door

  12. “Oh look! There’s a baby wolf!” I must remember that–it could come in handy any time of year. 🙂 It can sure be a stressful time of year for answering questions. I am glad yo addressed this. Hope your Christmas day was enjoyable, and now we move towards the new year! Peace.

    • I always appreciate knowing what’s been going on with you. I hope, with all my heart, that includes peace and joy, no matter when.

  13. What’s been going on? Almost more than I can cope with, but not quite as it was all with the people I care most about in the world. They are all in the air (literally) at the moment, so just hoping they all land safely (and thinking about those families who have been so unfortunate this Christmas) and above all being glad of the wonderful time we all had together. I hope you and your family and friends had a great time too.

    • I’m so glad you had great times with your family, Hilary. It’s always wonderful to know what’s been going on with you.

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