Day 659: Undone

Why do people (including me) focus on what’s undone, rather than noticing what IS done?

Do you focus on what you’ve left undone, rather than giving yourself credit for what you’ve done? Think about this: every time you make a choice to do something, the things you are NOT doing instead are …..

 

 

 

 

 

infinite.

Infinite things can be very overwhelming and can make people feel undone, don’t you think?  For example, I had a discussion yesterday, at work, with my friend Jan, about Infinity Scarves:

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(I’m done, here, including the link for that photo) (in the past, I’ve come undone about giving credit correctly)

Neither Jan, another great nurse named Arvetta,* nor I want anything to do with those infinity scarves, which look like they’re infinitely difficult to do and undo.

Besides agreeing with Jan and Arvetta about infinty scarves (and other things), here’s something else I did at work yesterday — individual therapy with several people. Every person I saw was painfully aware of what he or she was NOT doing. As a result of those kinds of self-judgmental thoughts, all these people seemed somewhat undone — that is, overwhelmed, lost, depressed, and anxious. When I invited them to look at what they have been doing — and to be more generous, kind and forgiving with themselves —  they all seemed to feel better by the time they were done talking to me.

It is always a privilege, for me, to witness people doing their best to undo old habits of negative self-judgment.

Here’s something else helpful to do:  make lists of what you HAVE done.

For example, yesterday, I

  • worked,
  • played,
  • listened to music,
  • walked,
  • ate,
  • drank water,
  • breathed,
  • read and answered emails,
  • talked to several people, including family members,
  • took my pill, and
  • slept.

I could make a list of what I left undone, yesterday … but I think I’ll leave that infinite undone list alone and undone, for now.

Phew!  That’s a relief.

Sometimes, when we undo old habits and try new ones, we encounter unexpected surprises, challenges, and obstacles.

I just encountered an unexpected surprise, challenge and obstacle, when I searched for the song “Undone” on YouTube.

I was momentarily undone, when I discovered that great blast from the past is really spelled …

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Undun.” (I wonder if using spaces like that — for emphasis and suspense — which has already been done in this blog post, is effective. No matter what,  I’m not going to undo them.)

Yes, I am a little undone that “Undun” — which, since 1969, I thought was spelled “Undone” — is spelled that way.

What** in this wide dun-green-and-blue-world does “undun”even mean? Is it the opposite of dun?

Here’s what I should probably do next, in this post:  include a definition of dun. Definitions have definitely been done before, in The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally (like, two days ago).

However, I don’t want to include any on-line definitions in this post today.  Been there, done that.  (And as I’ve done before in this blog, I want to remind you that being aware of what you want, and expressing that, helps you avoid becoming undone.)

But before this post is done, I want to give you some idea about what “dun” means. Here’s something I haven’t done yet: checked recent pictures on my iPhone, to see if any of them include the color dun. If they do, I can also be done with the photographic portion of my daily post.

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Yay!

That meal  — with some colors close to dun — was done by Michael, last night, for me and my son Aaron. When I was done, all those colors were wiped clean from that plate.

Is my defining dun done?

If so, that still leaves this task undone: deciding whether to undo what I’ve done in this post so far — in any way — or somehow proceed from here, writing about “undun and/or “undone.”

Honestly, I don’t think I should write a post about “Undun.” Writing about the opposite of a color is just not done.

Should I undo my intention of using the song “Undun” and see if there’s a song somebody else has done, titled “Undone”?

I don’t want to do that, either.

Will I do any harm, if I publish this post with a title “Undone” and a song “Undun”? That often undoes me: worrying that I’ve done something wrong, in any way.

I am not rewriting this post.What’s done is done and (I hope) no harm done.   Here‘s the song:

Done!

Now, guess who*** sang that song!

Is anything left undone, for you, in this post? Also, what tends to make you feel undone? Will you respond to my questions today or leave that undone? And if you leave that undone, will this post help you leave all self-judgment and shame undone?

Here’s what’s left undone for me: I wish to name that I’ve linked to many previous posts today.  Why?  Because I’m proud of what I’ve done!

All doing and undoings here are now done. Many thanks to everybody, everywhere, who does and doesn’t do, including you.


*  When I went to my work email, just now, to double-check the spelling of “Arvetta,”  I received this message TWICE:

Your password will expire in 6 days!

Something else I haven’t done.

** Would anybody like to guess how many times I’ve used the word “What” in the titles of my posts? Right now, to me, it looks like an infinite number.

*** Is knowing who wrote and sang “Undun” done for you? If so, are you undone by puns?

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21 thoughts on “Day 659: Undone

  1. I love focusing on what has been accomplished or done… one of my favorite meme’s is when you think you have so far to go, look back and see how far you’ve come! It’s a good lesson!

  2. It’s a matter of hall full or half empty, sort of, Ann. Let’s stay full, of that lovely Michael plate near dun and canned wheat from a great Canadian band whose song allowed you to venture close to Abbott-and-Costelloland. I will let all readers wonder what bachman turnered that premise into overdrive years later.

  3. Beautifully expressed and simply thought provoking:)

  4. lundygirl

    the washing is always done – the ironing remains undone. This often bothers me far too much!

  5. Aha! A song from my past. The Guess Who, with Randy Bachman and Burton Cummings.

    • Aha! A favorite reader returns! Can you guess who I mean?

      • Can I guess who you mean? Um…. nope…. A cat, I presume? Maybe a can in an infinity scarf?

        Speaking of infinity scarves… I have never seen one. But, in your photos they somewhat resemble moebius strips, and moebius strips are the coolest math thing next to the Koch snowflake. I guess that it’s a good time of year to wear our infinity scarves in case any Koch snowflakes are falling. (Koch snowflakes have finite area but infinite perimeter.)

      • I am infinitely glad that your comments are falling, like beautiful snowflakes, and landing on my posts today.

  6. I’m guilty of looking at what I’ve ‘undone’. I do tend to leave the thing that needs to be done most for the end and then it doesn’t get done (like clean my desk at home and organize my bedroom). As for infinity scarves I actually like them because they never fall off or become ‘undone’.

    • I’m so glad you did what you did here — share this great comment, Carol. I can relate to everything you wrote, so that makes me think — maybe I should give infinity scarves another chance!

  7. Yes. I have much to learn here on the Undone part. Great post.

  8. Yes and yes and yes. I live with daily lists and at night see all this things I ought to have done… because of course the others are crossed out so I don’t read them. I’m starting to do my meditation (started a month ago) last thing at night now – it works well.

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