Day 648: The Goodbye Look

Four Hundred and Forty-Two days ago, I wrote a post called “Looks.”

Today I’m writing about a specific kind of look: The Goodbye Look.

But what IS The Goodbye Look?

Do you have any guesses about that (and about where this post is going)?

(At this point, your guesses might be as good as mine.)

For one thing, “The Goodbye Look” is a song by Donald Fagen from his first solo album, 1982’s The Nightfly:

(YouTube video of “The Goodbye Look” found here)

Yesterday, I gave and received many looks throughout the day, including some Goodbye Looks (although, I certainly hope, NOT the kind Donald Fagen is singing about in that song).

Why were there so many Goodbye Looks yesterday?

Two people I know are leaving the hospital where I work. One of them is Melvin (looking like this in yesterday’s post):


Here’s another look from Melvin, when he and I were talking about saying “Goodbye.”


Also, there was a farewell party for a very talented, skilled, committed, and friendly co-worker, named Brigitte.  I didn’t get a shot of Brigitte, but I captured these Goodbye Looks on other people:

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In the first picture, you’re looking at Kathy, Mark, and Terry (left to right). I was especially glad to look at Mona (in the second picture), since she and I had exchanged Goodbye Looks a while ago. Isn’t that great that Mona’s outfit says “Hello”?

Something else I looked at, yesterday, was a message from WordPress, in response to my question to support people here:

An easy way to free up storage space for my photos in the media library?

That plea, from me, was a reflection of concerns that:

  • readers might give The Goodbye Look to my posts if they take too long to read and
  • there might be goodbye looks regarding my storage in various locations, because of how much friggin’ space my photos take up.

Give a look to WordPress’s return message (which I inadvertently gave The Goodbye Look to yesterday) (in other words, I mistakenly put it in The Trash):

Hi Ann,

There isn’t a bulk action to adjust those photos. Changing your photo sizes is a good idea, however. I did take a look at the first few photos in your library and noticed that they had files sizes and dimensions in common:

File size: 2 MB Dimensions: 2448 × 3264px

This is far larger than you’ll need on your site.

Your theme, Adventure Journal, has a main column constraint of 690px in the 2-column layout you’re using. If you can adjust your photos accordingly from now on, you’ll extend the usage of your space upgrade greatly.

If you don’t have photo editing software on your computer, you could use a free one such as You’d simply upload your image, select Resize, make sure you have “constrain proportions” selected, change the width to 690px, and save the image to your desktop. Then you can upload it to Your photo sizes will much smaller.

Unfortunately, you will have to adjust those older photos manually.

I took the liberty of opening this one by opening the photo from your Media Library, and clicking Edit Image:
The file was originially 2 MB and 2448 x 3264. I scaled the image to 690 x 920px. Now the image takes up 171 KB space.

I hope this helps. If I can address any other concerns or questions, please let me know. Cheers!

Words I liked looking at there included:

  • “Hi Ann,”
  • “free”
  • “simply””
  • “If I can address other concerns or questions, please let me know,” and
  • “Cheers!”

Words in that message I’d prefer unseeing included “unfortunately” and all the other ones implying  I have a lot of work ahead of me, resizing all the kashmillion photos I’ve posted here since January 1, 2013.

Well, at least I’m looking at a three-day weekend, starting tomorrow.

Speaking of my photos taking up too much space, sometimes I fear I’ll get The Goodbye Look from people if I, personally, take up too much space.  Coincidentally, somebody in one of my therapy groups yesterday was looking at something similar:


As you give whatever look you’re giving to that photo (which is taking up lots of space),  you might assume the word “frggin” came from me.  It didn’t!

What that woman said yesterday, in yesterday’s therapy group, is giving me the courage to post more photos (taking too much space) of other recent goodbye (and other) looks.

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After all, we’ve all survived my photos taking up too much space here (so far)!

Preparing to give The Goodbye Look to this post just now, I said “Goodbye” to my 16-year-old son, Aaron (who’ll be spending the three-day weekend away, with his father):

Me: I’m giving you “The Goodbye Look.”

Aaron: The Goodbye Look?

Me: Remember that song by Donald Fagen? It’s not that kind of look, obviously.

Aaron: That’s good.

Thanks to Aaron, Donald Fagen, Melvin, Brigitte, Kathy, Mark, Terry, Mona, Mohammed and Winston (who work at the place I park my car), cupcakes and pets waiting to get The Hello Look, the construction guy (who said, “I hope I didn’t break your camera”), Jackie, Ted Williams, David Ortiz, people working in groups, and everybody, everywhere, giving looks and taking up space today — including you!

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21 thoughts on “Day 648: The Goodbye Look

  1. Great Donald Fagen song. I love that album, as you know, Ann. Your headline and message made the old movie “The Goodbye Girl” pop into my head. Even with the slow loads I was experiencing with the big photos, I never once considered letting you become a Goodbye Girl by giving you the Goodbye Look.

    I just wanted to start your three-day weekend off with that thought, Ann.

    Hello, photo editing? Well, maybe you can take the helpful WordPress suggestion going forward, and also alter your old pictures going backward one post at a time. In 648 days from today, you’d have your complete back catalog completed!

    • I’m so glad to say “Hello” to your comment, Mark.

      When I took another look at that message from WordPress, I welcomed the words “from now on.” And while I might have concerns that resizing my old photos might cause them to say “Goodbye!” (at least temporarily), your helpful comment lets me give the goodbye look to worry, right now.

  2. I’m grateful every morning when I see your post in my Inbox that I can share a Hello look with you!

    I also like the practicalness of Mark’s suggestion — who would have thought to simply do it backyards one day at a time as you move forward one day at a time too? Cool!

  3. Gene Phillips

    The declaration “I deserve all the friggin space I take up” inspires me. I am not sure exactly how, but it does. By the way, if you have a program like Photoshop, you can batch edit pictures. And now I will give this post a goodbye look, one among an untold variety.

  4. I hope that you enjoy a small break from Aaron and have a great weekend!

  5. Your posts always jump off the page. I want to write something on a whiteboard too!

  6. hilarycustancegreen

    That was very helpful. I have no trouble opening your blogs photos and all. I wonder if people have trouble opening mine as I don’t resize my photos…Hmm

    • I still haven’t figured out the real down-sides of not down-sizing photos here, Hilary. I’ll tell you this, though: today I’m getting a message from my laptop telling me my start-up disk is running out of storage space. I may deserve all the friggin space I take up, but I don’t know if my devices agree with that!

  7. The Good Bye Look pictures here are happy looking. I guessing you gave your Good Bye Look to your son. These are good good bye 🙂

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  9. Love your photos, Ann. Especially the “I deserve all the frggin space I take up.” That cracked me up. I dread the Goodbye looks – saying farewell to folks I enjoyed working with and being with. Always sad. Instead of “goodbye,” I prefer ‘aloha’ which means hello and good bye. Or phrases such as ‘a bientot’ – which is French for ‘see you soon.’

    But I do enjoy the happy pics you have here. And I love Donald Fagen’s song. Hasta luego (see you later), Ann. 😉

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