381: Different Ways

As I compose this blog post, this morning, there are lots of ways it can go. At each moment, there are options I can choose, and I will. At the same time, I’m learning to let go of my investment in where it goes, and the ways it gets there.

in writing, in facilitating groups, in life in general, I’m learning ways to balance:

  1.  Recognizing and making choices, at each step of the way.
  2.  Letting go and enjoying the ride.

I wanted a metaphor of balancing those different ways of being, and this is where my mind went:


The specific analogy? Sometimes I’m the driver and sometimes I’m the passenger.

I guess my turn-of-mind there is not surprising,  since driving a car is part of my daily commute to work. (Walking is also a part of the way I go to work.)

Another reason that analogy does not surprise me?

My original intent, in this post, was to write about my1 current GPS system ….


…. Waze.

Here’s are some ways that Waze describes itself:

After typing in their destination address, users just drive with the app open on their phone to passively contribute traffic and other road data, but they can also take a more active role by sharing road reports on accidents, police traps, or any other hazards along the way, helping to give other users in the area a ‘heads-up’ about what’s to come.

In addition to the local communities of drivers using the app, Waze is also home to an active community of online map editors who ensure that the data in their areas is as up-to-date as possible.

Here are some notes I wrote on my phone, several months ago, about ways I might blog about Waze.

Reasons Why I Love Waze

It was recommended by someone I really like at work. She starts where I am. There’s structure so I know she’ll get me where I’m going. She can adapt to my mistakes. There are surprises every day. She guides me every step of the way even if other people are talking. She takes care of me, expressing concerns for my safety. Knows when to be quiet and knows when to speak. She communicates the shared wisdom of other people. I can leave and rejoin her at any time. She makes really good guesses about my needs. She doesn’t seem to have an attitude when I depart from the routes or do something else she doesn’t expect. She sometimes gets confused and makes mistakes, but she recovers really well.


Here’s what I want to say, right now, about the way I wrote those notes:

  • I presented them, above, almost exactly the same way they appeared in my iPhone this morning.  The exceptions? Bolding and centering the headline, italicizing the text, spelling corrections, punctuation changes, etc. — all ways to improve clarity and understanding, as you read this today.
  • .The second sentence — “She starts where I am” — might have been confusing when you first read it. You might have initially thought that “she” referred to the person at work who recommended Waze to me. Nope. My use of “she”, for the rest of those notes, referred to Waze, itself, who talks to me in a female voice.
  • Those notes might also refer, in some ways, to other females I’ve known (including myself).
  • I wrote those notes in my iPhone, using hands-free dictation, on my way to work. I haven’t quite figured out the right way to interact with my phone (and with others) while I’m in my car, on my way somewhere.  I’m working on that.

Here are some ways my mind is going, right now. I want to start ending this post.  My tried-and-true ways of doing that?  Expressing what might feel left unsaid. Plus, showing you images that relate to the blog post topic.

When I checked my iPhone notes, about Waze, just now, I found another note, which was separate from the others:

She is similar to and also different from people and programs I have encountered in the past.

Just now, when I went to my iPhone to check recent images, I absent-mindedly clicked on the Waze icon, and she asked me this question:

Are you on your way to work?

I answered, “No.” I meant, “Not yet.  Soon.”

Here’s are the two most recent photos2 from my iPhone, which show different ways to do cupcakes:



And, in conclusion, here’s one Google Image, in response to “ways” that seems safe enough3 to present right now:


(thanks to creattica.com for that image)

Thanks to Waze, voices (female and male) that have helped guide me, and to you — of course! — for reading today.

  1. In a recent blog post by Mark Bialczak, he and I got into an interesting discussion in the comments section about the use of the word “my.” Why else did I waylay you down here into Footnotes-ville, at that point in my post? In my usual sneaky and self-serving way,  I wanted to practice how I learned to do footnotes yesterday.

  2. Taken at Whole Foods Market, last night.

  3.  Recently, my friend Jeanette sent me an article regarding guidelines of how to more safely use other people’s images in a blog post, but I haven’t read it yet — one of my typical ways of dealing with something that scares me.

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24 thoughts on “381: Different Ways

  1. For some reason, I am afraid of apps like Waze, Ann. What else is she doing with my data? Will she swallow up all of the data available on my plan and leave me paying through the nose? I could do research and find answers, but I’m not at that point yet. There’s not that much traffic to get entangled with in Syracuse. My Garmin or my OnStar turn-by-turn suffice. Maybe before my next trip east or west on the New York State Thruway. And, thank you for the link to my blog and our discussion about the use of “my.”

    • It’s good to admit and name your fears, Mark, as a way to move forward. I think Waze is probably safe, although now that I’ve read your concerns, I’m wondering if perhaps I’ve been too trusting. I will reconsider, since a balance of trust and vigilance is often helpful.

      You are most welcome for my link to your blog; it was my pleasure to do so (and it helped my post, too)

  2. The professor was impressed by the cupcakes.

  3. Good blog… I liked the cupcakes too 🙂

  4. avoidance is one of favourite strategies. Well not really, but I do it anyway! haha
    Diana xo

  5. I know you waver about these WordPress awards, Ann, and it matters not to me whether you take time to accept or not. It only matters to me that I acknowledge your warmth with this nomination for the Sunshine Award.

    • I’m not wavering these days about awards, Mark. I’m just letting people give them to me and then not doing anything in return. Like now. (Except for expressing my heartfelt gratitude for receiving this honor from you.)

  6. I am learning balance too. It’s due to GIY – Girlfriend Induced Yoga.

    Contagious, apparently.

  7. You have interesting ‘ways’ to present your blog-posts to us.

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  9. Just downloaded the app. I’ll give it a whirl this weekend…


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