Someone I know just wrote this post on Facebook: “Lunch on Wednesday? I need something to look forward to.”
Don’t we all.
Yes, I write and talk to people about being in the moment, about letting go of expectations, investments, and other future-oriented thoughts.
But studies* also show that people need to have hope about the future. When times are challenging, especially, it helps to know something good is coming up.
I’m thinking about these challenging times this morning:
- Students returning to school, after a long vacation.
- People returning to work, after time off.
- Dealing with medical issues.
- Dealing with uncertainties.
In the past, here are some things I’ve looked forward to, that have helped with challenging times:
- Getting a cat.
- Seeing a musical.
- Going to a movie.
- Going out to a restaurant.
- Communicating with a friend (on the phone, through mail**, or in person).
- Having time to myself, when I can sing and dance with nobody watching.
I have vivid memories of how it helped to look forward to all those things, when I was a kid.
And I’ve looked forward to those things recently, too. And, guess what? All of those wishes have come true, within the last couple of months!
So that list includes the far past, the near past, AND things I can look forward to in the near future, too.***
Knowing all that helps, this morning.
That list also reminds me of a much bigger list, hanging in my office, that people have been adding to for over a year:
Right now, I can look forward to seeing that list, very soon.
Before I end this post, I also wanted to introduce you to somebody I met over the weekend:
That’s Dorothy Oja, She works at a very cool boutique, Thirty Petals. She’s an astrologer and an artist (that calendar in front has her artwork in it). She told me, “I’d be on the computer or the phone all the time if I didn’t get out,” and eight years ago, she started working at the store after she saw a Help Wanted sign in the window. She loves working there. She’s very interested in writing and artists. She told me she was one of the first people to create an email newsletter, which she’s been writing steadily for 16 years, and she seemed delighted when I told her about my blog.
That’s something else I look forward to. Meeting kind, interesting people.
Thanks to my Facebook friend, to Dorothy Oja, to all those who are looking forward to something and to you, especially, for visiting today.
* Perhaps you thought this footnote would include some sort of citation of real data. It doesn’t.
** Yesterday, I wrote about mail-related anxieties. However, there have been many times where I’ve really looked forward to getting mail.
*** The least likely one to come true in the near future is getting another cat. Although, who knows? And, just to review, here’s the current cat tally:
Great post. Thanks for this.
You are most welcome. I am grateful to you, in return.
Great post. I was just thinking about what I have to look forward with winter months and travel ahead…and then you answered it at the end “That’s something else I look forward to. Meeting kind, interesting people.” I love that about life.
Wish you a great week!
My week was definitely improved by your visit and comment. Thanks for being so kind and interesting, yourself!
I do love living in the moment, but I also love having things/events to look forward to! A little bit of anticipation goes a long way!
It’s true, Kate! Thanks so much for this great comment.
Dorothy is lovely and looks like she enjoys life greatly. How many people are in your household? We figure two cats per person is the minimum;) Oh! Almost forgot. Your kitties are beautiful.
There are three people in the household, which means we need to start visiting shelters immediately to make up that huge discrepancy. Thanks for commenting and remembering to compliment the cats.
Totally loved this article. I agree 100%. I too must have something to look forward as well. Yes, being in the moment is so important, yet, just as important, is having something in life to move forward to in enJOYment!
Thank you!!
You are most welcome. Reading your comment(s) today made my day brighter, lovelier, and more enjoyable. Thanks back at you!!
I truly love the public list fastened to your office wall. It’s communal, available, folksy, a great equalizer. Who doesn’t want to add their own line to a list headed by “What Helps.” As I look out my living room window right now, I see thick gray clouds with small ribbons of bright blue peeking between them. So I will ask you to add to your list for me: Sunshine. Thanks, Ann.
Truly love the comment. As you requested, Mark:
III You brought out my inner exclamation point with this one, Ann. Thank you so much.
Thanks for adding the sunshine, Mark.
Have you noticed that when you write down the things you look forward to that you don’t have now they somehow manifest themselves? It’s like sending your wish into the universe, and, by and by, there they are! This is a lovely post, full of hope. Thank you.
Thinking about this post (again) I am going to start a “wish list”. Writing things down. Lovely thing to think upon my day! Thank you!
Thanks so much for these lovely comments, so full of hope and great ideas!
Looking forward to telling you that I finally got around to answering this wonderful comment by you!
I’m one of those ‘goals’ oriented people Ann and without things to look forward to I think I might go mad….
things I’m looking forward to;
—) my house will be paid off in 3 years, 10 mos
—) I hope to own a B&B in costa rica some day
—) I look forward to 5:30 am every morning to take my dogs outside….even this morning in freezing temperatures I enjoyed every moment of it
—) I look forward to seeing people I like at coffee
—) and finally I always look forward to sex (what can I say…..I love it)
🙂
Thanks for sharing your list, Kenneth, including another S-word!
Thank you for coming by my blog . I like your blog. I must spend some time going through your older posts. Thanks again. Lucy Conrad The Breakfast Club
You are welcome and thanks for stopping by here. I look forward to meeting again.
Great ideas freom everyone… starting that list NOW! Bless, Susan x
You and ME both!!! And I am hanging my list on my refrigerator….IF I can find room for it! LOL
Thanks to both of you!!
…..love the post….<3!
I am so glad! Thanks for letting me know.
We are on a similar wavelength–I am in the process of writing a post about what my 95 year-old friend refers to as “something to live for,” in this instance, my passion for dancing. Thank you for your cool and inspiring list and post! Rock on….
Thank you for this cool, inspiring, and rocking comment.
Fantastic…just what I needed to read today. I’ve been having a difficult morning and it sounds like several of those things could really help me out.
I’m so glad you found it helpful, Jess!
Lovely kitty’s
Thank you for the lovely comment.
As I was reading through this post I was thinking, “Okay, this is interesting, I guess. It’s good to things to look forward to. Makes sense.”
And then I saw this:
* Perhaps you thought this footnote would include some sort of citation of real data. It doesn’t.
That totally cracked me up. I still can’t stop laughing. Excellent! Seriously, excellent!
I was looking forward to somebody cracking up at that footnote, and now it’s happened! Thanks for improving my day.
I think I will hang one of those sheets in my office. By any chance do you study narrative therapy?
Yes, I do, and I’ve written about that in other blog posts. I’ll add some links to this comment later, when I have time. However, I wanted to welcome you and express my appreciation for this comment now!
Okay! I finally found the time (and remembered, again, how to add links to a comment). Check out this post and this one, too, for some of my thoughts about narrative therapy.
I’ve read that the act of planning a holiday can actually be just as relaxing or beneficial as taking the holiday….I think that’s cool. Looking at pretty photos and reading about cool new things — you’re looking forward to something so much!
That is VERY cool. Thanks so much for the visit and the comment!
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