As I’ve mentioned many times before, I’m a group therapist, so I see groups in most things, and I see most things as groups.
Not uncommon, wouldn’t you say? We tend to see, in the external world, a reflection of our internal experience. That which is important to you, you will see reflected back from the world around you.
I wish I had some cool examples or images of that to show you here — for example, motorcyclists seeing motorcycles everywhere, teachers seeing students everywhere, or something like this saying:
… but I’m eager to get to my next point. So I will let you fill in this space, with your own examples and images:
(of seeing your interests, thoughts, assumptions, and experience reflected back from the world around you)
So, where was I? Oh yes, I see groups everywhere and I see these groups in terms of my personal experience and assumptions about leading groups.
And, for the groups I run, I allow people to join in and attend, whenever they choose. Which is not unlike the situation here, in my blog. That is, new people are constantly joining with veteran readers. Some people have been reading since Day 1, and each day, new people appear.
One thing I work on, as a group therapist, is helping new people come up to speed, while still meeting (some of) the needs of the long-timers. I don’t mean to brag (although I’ve been working on allowing myself to brag, this year) …. but THAT is NOT an easy thing to do well.
I’ll give you an example, of how that issue occurs for me, here. When I just looked at the first sentence of this post –“As I’ve mentioned many times before” — I considered rewriting that, because I thought, “Hmmmm. That doesn’t apply to new readers. How can I make that sentence work for everybody?” And my response to that question was:
I can’t. Oh, well. Now what?
…. which is not a bad answer to other questions, pertaining to the urge for perfection in difficult tasks.
Okay! Time Out!
I want to take a moment here and point out my state of mind while I’m blogging right now. Here are the relevant facts:
- I didn’t get enough sleep last night.
- It’s Sunday, so I have more space and time to blog.
Here’s another factor to add to this dangerous combination:
- It snowed, quite a bit, overnight, so I’m feeling some anxiety, right now (because of some obligations, later today, that involve driving).
Therefore, this will be a digressive, rambling, and babbling post, today. There’s no getting around that.
Okay, I think I’ve done a good enough job, right now, managing people’s expectations about this post. Therefore, it’s time to move on to the “meat” of it.
In other words, what WAS the major point (as reflected in the post title and in all digressions, ramblings, and babblings up to now) that I wanted to make, today?
Here it is: I wanted to bring longer-term readers up to speed on some pre-existing issues, while still providing something for new people.
What were the issues I was thinking about? Two of them:
- How our new cat, Harley, is doing, adjusting to his new home.
- How I’m doing, adjusting to my new heart “condition” (that is, the October addition of atrial fibrillation AND my new need for daily anti-coagulant medication).
Actually, speaking of adjustments and How We Are Doing, I’m going to try to add another, more recent one, to that list of two: The First Major Snow of the Winter Season.
How am I going to tie all these things together AND provide something valuable for readers new and old?
Simple! A Photo Essay!
How We (Harley and I) Are Doing***
A Photo Essay
Harley is doing quite well, thank you, adjusting to his new home. Here is some recent photographic proof:
Michael, my bf, took this photo last night. Actually, as much as I might admire Michael’s photographic sense of composition and emotional content, this does NOT prove that Harley is doing okay. To me, he looks totally freaked out. However, this is not an inaccurate representation: Harley still looks freaked out, a fair amount of the time. However, Harley looks (and acts) freaked out much less, these days (compared to how he was when we introduced him in October). And that’s getting better, every day in every way.
So, again, Harley is doing quite well, thank you.
And here’s proof that more often than not, Harley is not freaked out:
(Notice how I snuck in the presence of snow, in that photo)
(and also the presence of Michael, there).
One more photo of Harley, this morning, to show that he is doing quite well:
For those of you who are wondering about how (New Group Member) Harley is affecting (Old Group Member) Oscar, Oscar is also doing quite well:
… which I hope you can see, in another photo by Michael.
Okay! Now, what do I have to do, before I conclude this post? (As I mentioned before, I’m tired and a little anxious about the day, so I would like to end this post soon.)
Oh, yes! I was going to bring you up to speed on how I’m doing, too. I have to admit that, since the beginning of October (and the appearance of the atrial fibrillation and my need to take daily anti-coagulants), I have not been feeling as well as I was, before that. And that’s been difficult.
However, yesterday, when Michael and I were at the supermarket (stocking up for groceries for the predicted snowfall), I turned to him and said, “You know what? I’ve been feeling better lately. As a matter of fact, right now, I feel …. as good as I was feeling before.”
Now, I don’t feel that good, every day. But it was wonderful to feel that — and realize it — yesterday.
Despite my celebration, I will confess to you, dear readers, that I resent having to take medication every day, for the rest of my life. And I always am on the verge of forgetting to take my daily pill (although I’ve taken it every day so far).
Also, in general, I have been feeling more anxious, especially as the snow and ice appear. Why? Here’s a direct quote from one of my cardiologists (regarding my being on anti-coagulants):
“Ann, please make sure NOT to fall on the ice, okay?
And my response to that (as with other doctors’ orders, in the past), was to say, “I’ll do the best I can” (while feeling, inside, a new anxiety).
But, like Harley, I’m doing better with that, too. Still freaked out, but a lot less frequently.
Here’s my penultimate image, for today:
Why am I choosing that photo? Lots of reasons:
- It’s a group of objects, and as I said (way back in the beginning of this post), I tend to see things in terms of groups.
- In the foreground of that photo is the fancy-shmancy pill-box I recently bought myself, to help myself feel better about having to take medication, every day.
- My son put my glasses on that grapefruit yesterday, and that makes me happy.
- There are some objects in that photo that I’ve been losing track of lately (including my keys) but that photo is proof that I keep finding them again, too.
- The cat in the background looks a little like Harley, but it’s actually a computer screen cleaner I bought earlier this year (I like adding fun — or beauty — to things I don’t like to do, whenever possible).
- The girl looking out the window is a dancing-hula-girl toy, which was a gift from the very nice owner of a nearby Chinese Restaurant (which we haven’t been to lately, so I’m letting go of guilt about THAT).
Okay, now that I’ve managed to let go of some guilt and anxiety (and to embrace some joy,too), it’s time for the final photo of this post. This photo is what the hula girl, in that previous picture, is seeing, right now:
I hope so, anyway.
Thanks to Michael (for shoveling off my car this morning, among other things), to anybody I forgot to thank (because of tiredness and anxiety), to group members old and new, and to you — of course! — for reading today.
* I found this image here.
** Thanks to FreeSoundEffectz
*** NOTE: All these photos were taken within the last 12 hours, so they are pretty much “in the moment” (something that’s important to me).
**** Personally, I think we all need to hear applause sometimes, and cheering, too! Feel free to play that, for yourself, whenever you need it. And thanks to TheHalloweenHaunters, for posting the video on YouTube.