There’s a whole lot of change goin’ on here, dear readers.
I’m very aware of the difference between:
- Changes I am choosing, and
- Changes I’m not choosing.
That always seems to help: Recognizing the difference between those two types of changes.
Do I deal differently with those two types of changes?
Let’s find out, shall we?
Let’s look at two particular changes on the horizon — one which I’m choosing and one which I’m not.
A Change I’m Not Choosing:
A change in the seasons. Specifically, the cold is coming, here in New England.
I’m not fortune telling (nor using any other cognitive distortion) when I make that last statement. I think it’s safe to say that the chances of it NOT getting cold, soon, where I live, are approximately the same as:
an idiom that’s so inappropriate, I couldn’t resist using it.
Here’s another Google Image, for that idiom, that I can’t resist:
So, we can all agree, I hope — as distracted as we may be by those photos — that the cold will be arriving, soon, where I live.
How will I deal with that change?
- Complain about it.
- Especially complain about it with people who are empathic and who “get me” (that is, other people who don’t like the cold and who can’t escape it, for now).
- Focus on activities I like doing, which I’m more likely to do when it’s cold outside (for example, watching movies).
- Buy a fabulous piece of cold-weather gear, and wear it (for example, my one major purchase, when I was in Scotland in August):
It’s the hat (in case that photo was confusing, in any way).
Okay! I’m ready to move on to a change that would include choice.
A change I would be choosing:
Getting another cat.
We already have one cat, named Oscar:
That’s Oscar,above, sleeping on last year’s winter hat. Here’s a close-up:
Why am I considering this change? Lots of reasons, including:
- Oscar seems to be hungering for more companionship, despite having humans around most of the time.
- He likes to play, but not with toys.
- He can be an ankle-biter (only with the person who has recently started taking anti-coagulant medication).
- Our vet thinks it would be a good change, for everybody.
So we’re considering another shelter cat, including
And those are just the “B’s.”
Which illustrates something I’ve blogged about before: I can have trouble making decisions, especially those that have an impact on others.
So how will I deal with this change?
- Talk (and write) about it.
- Especially talk about it with people who “get” it, or who might have helpful information and advice.
- Make a pros and cons list, to the best of my ability.
- Make sure (because other creatures are involved) there is a do-no-harm “out,” if the change does not work.
- Take a breath.
- Just do it!
Okay! That concludes our blog post for today.
* Image ascribed, somehow, to sodahead.com.
** Image ascribed to abaenglish.com.