Yesterday, throughout the day at work, I re-discovered that moods can switch for people. People feel better, then they feel worse. Then they feel better again.
Et cetera, et cetera.
At the end of the therapy groups I do at work, I often invite people to leave behind anything they choose, in “The Magic Wastepaper Basket” (which is whatever wastepaper basket is in the group room).
I’m not sure whether people take me up on that invitation. I just like giving it.
People who’ve read about The Worry Box may notice a similarity here. The Magic Wastepaper Basket is another way to let go of unhelpful things.
However, I’ve noticed that it can feel scary to throw something away, even if it’s something that’s definitely not helping.
Therefore, I’ve also made the suggestion that people leave Unhelpful Things (like worry, harsh self-criticism, paralyzing fears, etc.) outside the room — like a piece of baggage, “which you can pick up, if you choose, on your way out.”
I do like the idea of throwing things away for good, though. Wouldn’t that be nice?
Wouldn’t it be great if one could just crumple up a fear like that …
…. and throw it away!
I think an important part of that “trick” would be this: to be non-judgmental and accepting, if the fear came back.
Here’s a thought, though:
Maybe every time we throw something away, it gets smaller.
Thanks so much for reading today.