This post is dedicated to my friends Rob and Gene.
The very first week of this blog, I wrote about a word that I hesitated naming. That was the P-word, which was Procrastination. I hesitated to speak its name, because that can be a loaded, self-critical and unhelpful word for a human process I see everywhere — in myself and in others, too.
Yesterday, I wrote about another word, that I felt the urge to not-name, also. That was the D-word. And THAT was a word that a lot of people try to avoid.
Phew. So much for the D-word, in THIS post. (I’m definitely on board with Death Avoidance today, people.) (Although, earlier today I was worrying about some deadlines. And take a look at THAT word. Dead-lines! Geesh! Is that word supposed to motivate us or paralyze us with fear?!)
Anyway, moving on, to today’s Word-That-Might-Not-Be-Named.
I would like to present, ladies and gentlemen, the A-word.
Not quite as scary as death. But still difficult for me (and a lot of other people, I believe) to talk about. And to deal with.
This is what I’m noticing about anger, these days:
- Most people (including me) don’t have good role models for How To Experience and Express Anger Effectively.
- Anger is an emotion that a lot of people disown and dislike in themselves and in others.
- Anger is just another human emotion, like sadness, joy, and fear. Everybody reading this blog has all those emotions. (If Mr. Spock is reading this blog, he knows that he has them, too.)
- Anger is the human reaction to injustice and to fundamental needs not being met.
- Anger has a lot of energy, to help us change that which is unjust and not serving us well.
- Anger, the way it is expressed out in the world, is tied up with hatred and violence (which can be very confusing and frightening).
I’m not sure what the “solution” is …. to the “problem” of anger in the world (and in ourselves).
My belief is that the first step is accepting anger as human — as something useful and maybe even beautiful. Then, maybe we can do better at figuring out more effective ways to express and use that Energy of Anger.
I think this is a tough topic, people. I’m not surprised that I procrastinated writing about this, until Day 150. (Even death was easier to broach, apparently!)
As always, I am curious and eager to hear your thoughts about this. And thanks so much, for reading today!