As I’m sure I’ve mentioned in previous posts, certain things we experience seem to stick more than others.
To put it simply: The negative sticks, more than the positive does.
To re-state that, with more detail: Negative thoughts, feelings, people, memories, encounters, and words tend to take on more importance, become bigger, and hang on in the mind — more than positive thoughts, feelings, people, memories, encounters and words do.
That’s been my experience, and also the experience of most people I encounter.
In a previous post, which I wrote (when? I can’t find it) (oh, well), I described a half-assed theory of mine about why that is, having to do with our ancient ancestors and survival.
Who knows, maybe that theory is more than half-assed. Maybe it’s three-quarters-assed. No matter how fully assed my reasoning is, there are studies out there, I believe, that have similar conclusions, with real data. I’m not going to look these up right now, though. I have to go to work, and this is The Year of Living Non-Judgmentally, not The Year of Backing Things Up With Empirical Data.
Therefore, in conclusion:
- The negative sticks
- The positive doesn’t
- #1 and #2 make it difficult to figure things out (“things” including what you want or need, people, yourself, TMOL) (The Meaning Of Life)
- Good luck with all that.
That last point may sound dismissive. It’s not.
With all the distortions, assumptions, outdated patterns, sticky negatives and non-sticky positives that cloud our perspective, we can use all the help we get — whether it’s luck, support, letting go of judgment, re-thinking things, beginner’s mind, wisdom, other people’s perspectives, or our own ever-learning experience.
So good luck to you, dear reader, and to me, too!