There has been a lot going on, in this Year of Living Non-Judgmentally.
By taking a lot of new risks and by letting go of self-judgment, I feel like I have been learning A LOT. Sometimes I feel like that learning is proceeding at a really accelerated rate — probably because new learning begats new learning, which begats more learning, and so on and so forth.
From that biblical reference of begatting, I’m going to skip some millennia for another reference re: Accelerated Learning, jumping to “Star Trek” (The Original Series), one of my favorite shows when I was growing up.
One of the first episodes of Star Trek was “Where No Man Has Gone Before” with Gary Lockwood and Sally Kellerman, wherein Gary Lockwood’s character gets struck by something radioactive or something else futuristic (it’s been a while since I’ve seen it, folks), and he acquires new knowledge (and powers) at an increasingly rapid pace, until his eyeballs get all glow-y and he eventually thinks he’s God. Of course, this episode did not turn out well for Gary (or Sally, for that matter).
I looked for the clip from that episode that shows how quickly Gary is learning, but I can’t find it on YouTube. But here’s the trailer, which gives you an idea of what I’m talkin’ ’bout:
Anyway, imagine watching that episode, where that guy with the glow-y eyes is learning new things by viewing them on an electronic reader (essentially, the 1960’s vision of The Kindle). Imagine, dear reader, being horrified as the pages whip increasingly quickly, until they are just a blur!
I’m not saying I’m learning quite that rapidly, but I have been thinking about that Star Trek episode lately. And while there is little danger that my eyes will go all glow-y or that I’ll end up in a fight-to-the-death with another glow-y eyed person on an abandoned planet, I’m not sure what to do with all this new knowledge.
Therefore, I have decided, for today’s post, to present a Semi-Random list of New Things I’ve Been Learning (or re-learning, in new ways).
New Things I’ve Been Learning (or Re-Learning in New Ways)
- Hellos and goodbyes are both important.
- Telling people what you can and cannot do in a situation is a helpful way to set limits and manage expectations.
- You can ask somebody else if they love you, as risky as this may seem. (This is especially handy if you are dealing with somebody who does not tend to verbalize such things).
- You do not have to understand technology perfectly in order to use it.
- If you make mistakes while using new technology, this does not prove that you are incompetent, stupid, or too old to learn new things. It just means that new technology is complicated and takes practice.
- The less shame and self-judgment you are experiencing, the more present you can be in the moment and the more effective you can be with other people.
- The more you avoid doing something, the more likely you will be confronted with having to deal with that very thing.
- The more time you spend focusing on a mistake you’ve made, the longer it will delay your solving the current situation and moving on.
- If you forget something, it doesn’t necessarily prove that you are (a) too self-absorbed, (b) incapable of taking care of yourself in the world or (c) in a catastrophic, age-related memory-loss spiral. It just might mean that there are too many things to remember.
- The more you act out of defensiveness, the more you will put other people on the defensive.
- People (in the US, anyway) have too much to do, every day, and this can have a profound effect on how they interact with you and other people.
- Negative actions or thoughts are not more powerful than positive ones, they just get more attention.
- If you are self-conscious about doing something — for fear of appearing foolish or whatever — you might as well try it. Because (to quote a good friend), YOU’LL LIVE.
Okay, that’s all I’m going to include in this post, dear reader. I don’t want your eyes to go all glow-y, or anything.