Day 28: Losing the investment in the outcome

This is going to be a  short post, mostly because I had a challenging day today, which included difficult situations as well as some self-doubt.

So this is all I’m going to do right now:  I’m going to try to put into words a concept that I’ve found really helpful.

When I get caught up in worry about how something is going to turn out, I invite myself to lose my investment in the outcome.

I remind myself that being invested in the outcome  takes me out of the moment.  Being invested in a certain outcome can lead to disappointment, rather than acceptance.

This has helped me  when I’ve been in the middle of really difficult, scary situations. It’s also helped me when I care about something so much that I really, really want it to turn out well.

It helps me do the work I do, because I let go of a need for somebody else to change a certain way.  Then, I can be committed to being as present as possible with another person, exactly how they are.

I’m not at my best tonight — it’s more difficult than usual to write —  and it’s interesting that I’m choosing this time to try to communicate about something that I think is very important.

I’m sure I’ll write about it again.  For now, this was helpful, almost like visiting an old, faithful friend.

Thanks for reading.