This is going to be a short post, mostly because I had a challenging day today, which included difficult situations as well as some self-doubt.
So this is all I’m going to do right now: I’m going to try to put into words a concept that I’ve found really helpful.
When I get caught up in worry about how something is going to turn out, I invite myself to lose my investment in the outcome.
I remind myself that being invested in the outcome takes me out of the moment. Being invested in a certain outcome can lead to disappointment, rather than acceptance.
This has helped me when I’ve been in the middle of really difficult, scary situations. It’s also helped me when I care about something so much that I really, really want it to turn out well.
It helps me do the work I do, because I let go of a need for somebody else to change a certain way. Then, I can be committed to being as present as possible with another person, exactly how they are.
I’m not at my best tonight — it’s more difficult than usual to write — and it’s interesting that I’m choosing this time to try to communicate about something that I think is very important.
I’m sure I’ll write about it again. For now, this was helpful, almost like visiting an old, faithful friend.
Thanks for reading.