Day 28: Losing the investment in the outcome

This is going to be a  short post, mostly because I had a challenging day today, which included difficult situations as well as some self-doubt.

So this is all I’m going to do right now:  I’m going to try to put into words a concept that I’ve found really helpful.

When I get caught up in worry about how something is going to turn out, I invite myself to lose my investment in the outcome.

I remind myself that being invested in the outcome  takes me out of the moment.  Being invested in a certain outcome can lead to disappointment, rather than acceptance.

This has helped me  when I’ve been in the middle of really difficult, scary situations. It’s also helped me when I care about something so much that I really, really want it to turn out well.

It helps me do the work I do, because I let go of a need for somebody else to change a certain way.  Then, I can be committed to being as present as possible with another person, exactly how they are.

I’m not at my best tonight — it’s more difficult than usual to write —  and it’s interesting that I’m choosing this time to try to communicate about something that I think is very important.

I’m sure I’ll write about it again.  For now, this was helpful, almost like visiting an old, faithful friend.

Thanks for reading.

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24 thoughts on “Day 28: Losing the investment in the outcome

  1. sinbadthesailorwp

    You used to say “don’t be married to the outcome.” You’ve metaphorically shifted from holy matrimony to finance. Glad you posted in any case!

  2. Love your posts! Thanks for following!

  3. Maria

    Ann, Hi. I’ve continued to enjoy and appreciate your blog. I hope you’re ok and everything.

  4. Great post, thank you for taking the time and effort even though you did not feel at your best. Your words certainly ring true. It is tough to let go of how we think people should behave. We tend to impose limits on who they can be, and those limits come back on us.

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  9. Thanks for sharing!!!

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